Have you ever had a friend act jealous??

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This is an odd situation for anyone to be in but I went to a bar at the request of my b/f to have "girl time". I hate doing this I dont want to talk to people and I have a boyfriend so I'm not looking for anyone else. When I go out I have an awful time I normaly just sit there, no dancing b/c lets face it... I can't. I was sitting out on a patio at the bar & these guys come up to me and two other girls I was with. My staring is also a HUGE issue girls will often yell at me & guys try to take me home. Two of us are in committed relationships, one is single and a train wreak to start. My train wreak associate is highly intoxicated at this point. One guy comes over & starts chatting with me. We talk about work I show him my website that I write all articles and SEO for (Pizzaoven.com) & it's my baby I have created it with the help of this chick but all creative concept is mine. She starts showing pictures of her dog that she had to get rid of b/c she doesn't work I'm now assuming this was to draw attention off of me. I got mad at this b/c my conversation skills were not messing up. I wasn't stuttering either I sounded confident and smart... So rare & she took it away.

I let it go and sit there for another 25 minutes while she rambles on and on and my other friend chats with a girl she just met about some tv show. Idk how she does this but I'm fasinated by watching her. She is a good supportive friend & she knows I'm a little "unuiqe" as she puts it so her attempts at including me are priceless.
The train wreak TW loses the male attention she was after when the guy turns back to me. She then tells him I have Aspergers... Like this was a bad thing. This Back fired for her b/c he thought it was "cool". This encouraged him to Ask me tons of questions about parts of my life it was really strange I didn't know if he was making fun of me, drunk , or if I as like one of those shows you watch on tv about people with things wrong with them & they tell you their story. It was all uncomfortable my friend who was still chatting with the new girl gave me our signal which is a smile to let me know he was okay to talk. I like our codes we had them set up the first time we ever went to a party together and they have stuck for years.... She is a good person.

The TW didn't like something about her outcome b/c she was on her phone and I am not one to draw conclusions but this girl calls me everyday and all she does is talk about hersel as most NT adults do. If you let them talk half the time especially with females you don't have to even really listen. Half the time I put it on speaker & work on my site while she talks randomly repeating bits of what she says which gets her going again so I don't have to talk. I am proud to say she is the one of the few I have mastered talking to on the phone. I don't know when to get off and there has been times I've just said ok I'm done & hung up... This is rude btw.
She chimes into the conversation that she has Thrombocytopenia. This is a blood disorder you have to be checked for. I know she hadn't so I Googled which I'm very good at and learned about it while she was talking. I also texted with an ER physician that I know comparing what she said & the lie reveled itself b/c she wouldn't have been able to drink if she was as sick as she claimed as well as there would be bruising & bleeding. She was showing lots of skin & I saw nothing. Why would someone make up a sickness; one that can kill you? I don't even know what to think about it, didn't at the time either. Is it common for people to be jealous of a mental disorder? My good friend said that it was jealousy later. We "ditched" her & went to a late movie. I was overloaded after that whole ordeal. I really just don't understand what happened or why I was defending myself the entire night when she spoke. I didn't do anything but sit there until I was spoken to. This TW of a girl is also the same one who says Aspergers is made up.

I have not been answering her calls. She makes my brain feel like it has expanded with no where to go & makes me anxious I don't know why though it's so strange that a person can have a physical reaction to another person

yup totally normal

Yes I've had this (minus the whole making up a sickness thing) and I don't understand it. I was getting ready for a night out a few weeks ago with a friend at work and my other friends at work decided to wait for me to get ready before they went home as, apparently, seeing me in a dress with make-up on is a bit of a novelty lol. So when they saw me, they both told me how nice and pretty I looked. My other friend decided to say that I looked casual next to her as her dress was far more dressy and asked my other friends if they agreed. My other friends didn't really say anything other than that she looked nice also.

When I returned to work the following week after this night out, my other friends commented on the fact that this friend put me down to make herself look better and they didn't like it and asked if I was ok. I told them that I was fine and that she's a nice girl really, she just has insecurity issues. The thing is, with this friend, she is also single and a train wreck. She gets upset when people notice me and not her because I am with someone and she thinks it pointless for people to notice me when she is the one that's available and not me. However, the one of the friends who told me I looked nice is a guy - he is a friend who I have known longer than what she has. Also, she doesn't even fancy him so it seems a bit odd that she would then want his attention.

So Cjocjocj, it would appear that I in some way share your pain

Yes, I have had a friend who acted jealous towards me. I don't like being worse than everybody else but I still don't like being jealous of either. I can't say that I'm not a jealous person because I am and it's a serious problem with me but when I'm jealous of someone, I don't show it to their face, I just quietly feel jealous and maybe tell other people who I know won't tell the person that I'm jealous of.

But I had a friend who was jealous of me, back when I was in the Sixth Form. She was my best friend, but after almost a year of getting on well, she started arguing with me, and I knew it was through jealousy. She was jealous that I had more money saved up in my bank than she did, and so kept on at me to take out money, but I had to keep saying no because I wanted to keep saving, and then she started criticising saying that I'm old enough to take care of my own money, and I was like, ''exactly, and I am being sensible with it.'' Then she was jealous of me because I weighed less than she did, and started criticising if I only ate a sandwich for my lunch, and made me eat more. I did eat healthily, I've never been a fussy type, but I didn't want to overeat either. Then she started getting on at me because I wanted to leave and go to college to do something different, and she accused me of being selfish, which I wasn't. I could tell she was so jealous of me, and I don't know why because I'm no-one to get jealous over. She was cleverer than me but I never got jealous of her.

Oddly enough, I've had this type of thing happen more than once.

I hadn't seen someone for a long time and she didn't know that I'd lost a lot of weight. She thought I'd just be my plump, dowdy self and she'd be the belle of the ball. So I went to the get-together (didn't know there'd be that many people there ) wearing black patent leather boots and makeup--and other clothes, btw . She suddenly remembered that she'd forgotten something important at home, and when she came back, she had on boots and makeup.

TW was not jealous of your mental illness, she was jealous because you got the attention of the guy she decided at that precise moment she wanted for herself. It is pretty normal. Women are frequently jealous and will do whatever to get the guy they want. She mention your Aspergers (which was EXTREMELLY mean, btw) to push the guy away from you, but as it did not work and she noticed he was interested in your dx, she invented an illness for herself so she can get his attention again. TW is not a good friend and she is a very dangerous person. I think, if it is possible for you, better stay away from her.

That sucks! I've had friends sabotogue me a lot, mostly in HS and Middle School but not so much now because I stay away from those types of people. You know, those perfect people who always need attention to reaffirm what they already think so highly about themselves?

I wouldn't lose that friend over it if she apologizes, just sayin those people get on my nerves. In some ways it can help to toughen up and confront them even if it means a slight risk of embarassment. Mostly on her part, for being a jerk.

It just feels like people were jealous of me a lot when I was young for anything ranging from my artwork to my book smarts, whatever. Thanks to them I'm struggling more as an adult with the confidence I had.