What's Going On? I Actually Intiated Eye Contact?!

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I popped into the local Burger King on my way home and while I'm no fan it was the only thing in that neighborhood. It seems like every time I go there this same 22-25 year old is on the counter and she had to be one of the most friendliest people you would ever meet. In short, it's hard to believe she's working at such a low wage job and she even has a very mature attitude for that age (when everyone else was joking around she was focused on her job last time I visited). If I had a company I would hire her on the spot she's THAT friendly and well presented. I have no idea if she's single or not (probably not since she's actually normal!) but for the first time in my life before leaving I actually turned to the counter, looked her square in the eyes and wished her a good day and thanks for the good service. Yes you read that right: I initiated eye contact and what's more amazing was that it felt natural! What's going on with me? Am I becoming an NT? Needless to say she appreciated the gesture so I'll have to try to do it more often. Too bad I wasn't a huge BK fan because there aren't many people like that in the world (at least at that age) and I would love to strike up a conversation with her, single or not. Maybe I'll have to make a special trip there next Sunday!

You're not turning NT, but you are learning to navigate and survive in their world.

Two things that I've noticed that people seem to appreciate are a handshake when you first meet them and looking them in the eye. I've learned (in my late 20's) to put my hand out when I meet someone and tell them my name and shake it and say nice to meet you. I shake firmer with men, and softer with women unless they grip my hand firmer. I got my husband once to show me how men shake hands and that sort of hurt. I'd be offended if a guy did that to my hand, the hard squeezing grip, but I appreciate a nice grip and not just a limp dishrag. It seems others do too.

Looking people in the eye and getting good feedback from them makes you feel good. I'm glad you did it and I hope you continue doing so, even with others.

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I don't make normal eye contact, but I do make it, and initiate it from time to time.
The thing I don't usually like is touch, nor do I get sarcastic language, but there is this exception. This guy that I like - when he touches my shoulder, looks me in the eye, or is sarcastic, for some reason, I get it better than I do with others. It's this weird anomaly.

Maybe if we're comfortable with that person, it's less of an issue?

In my experience, every once in awhile there will be someone I will feel strangely comfortable around, and (especially if it's a good social day, where I don't feel stressed) I can make eye contact. It's kinda weird... but I think certain special people just have personalities that click well with Aspies. (Or maybe just certain people click well with certain other people.) Perhaps the same thing is going on with you?