GFG's teacher wants to go to hear test results with me......

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GFG teacher has been wonderful and understanding. She goes out of her way to make sure that he doesn't fall behind in class.

We have a great relationship and communicate several times a week. GFG goes back for testing on the 12th. The school will get a copy of the IEP and documentation after the tests are completed. It'll probably be a week after testing before we get the results.

My question is does anyone think that it's inappropriate for GFG's teacher to go with me to hear the results? We've already asked the school if it was a liability (so they don't get in trouble) and they said that it was fine. No decision has been made yet on whether or not she's going.

GFG also meets with the school psych once a week. The problem that we foresee is that it takes a bit of time before the school system will be able to set up all of his OT, etc. These two people really care about him and are willing to do this in their spare time. I'm getting different reactions from people that I'm close to.

One group thinks that these two are overstepping their boundries.

The other group thinks that it's wonderful that they care enough about him to try to help him as soon as possible.


Anyone have any takes on this?

What or Who is a GFG? I couldn't get it from the context.

Sorry.....Gift from God.....I guess that's the polite/policitcal correct terminology the docs like to label your kiddos with "issues".

They don't want to offend anyone. So it is my ASPIE/ADD kiddo.

The teacher wants to go hear the offical "Asperger Diagnosis"

I don't quite understand... do you want the teacher to go, or not?

I think the teacher is only "overstepping boundaries" if that's an area where you want to draw a boundary.

I think that she really cares about him and wants to know how to help him better. But.... a lot of people that I know thinks that it's not appropriate for her to go to see his doctor with me.

I'm kind of the opinion that he needs as much love, support & understanding that he can get. If they want to be there for him it's okay.

I don't think it's a problem BUT a lot of other people think that it's none of her business.

She's his teacher and she wants to help him. I'd say that makes it "her business." It might be worth asking these naysayers for a better explanation of why she shouldn't hear the diagnosis (which you'd presumably explain to her anyway, if she didn't go). But "it's not appropriate" often translates to "people don't usually do that, therefore people shouldn't do that."

I think you and your son are lucky to have a teacher who really wants to help.

How is "Gift from God" at all politically correct? Anything with "God" in it is usually not because it alienates people who don't believe in a god.
That may not be what you meant, and I may just be hung up on semantics.

Anyway, if the teacher wants to go, and you're okay with that, I don't see a problem. Don't worry about whether it's appropriate in the minds of others, unless they can come up with something that's really wrong with it. And they probably can't.

Thanks for the input..... I've heard others say that since it's private testing that I'm paying for it that no one from the school should be there. The way I look at it is they're going to know anyway so they can help him.

I think it's great that his teacher loves him and is looking out for his best interest.

I think that the assumption is that because MOST teachers don't go to these appointments that it's WEIRD.

I think this is the wrong group of folks to ask...should something not be done simply because it's different from the norm. Many of us are all about being different. We can't help it.

I'm with the others here:

1) It's a good thing that the teacher is caring and wants to help.
2) You seem to want her there.

So she should be able to go. It's that simple.

I've come the conclusion, that many of these type of questions are only difficult because of all the social things that go with them. It's one area where lack of those queues comes in handy.

Sure, it's out of the norm and the privacy laws say you don't have to let the teacher be there. Privacy laws are to protect people from having sensitive information misused by ignorant or predatory people. This teacher is neither and actually is going the extra mile to help your child. In your shoes, I would love to have this person along for the diagnosis. She may have questions you wouldn't think of to help her do the best job she can. A lot of parents would kill for a teacher like this one.

DOCTORS CALL US GIFTS FROM GOD and this is to not OFFEND?

are you kidding me? this is what DOCTORS call us? and they get the PARENTS to refer to us as GIFTS FROM GOD?

how demeaning! how DISMISSIVE! what arrogance! I am utterly speechless - what patronizing BS!

unless someone wants to see a 60 year old Aspie go POSTAL upside their heads, they had better not call ME a 'gift from God'.

I am disgusted!!

Merle

Last edited by sinsboldly on 07 Dec 2007, 1:04 am, edited 1 time in total.

I have to say, I wouldn't really want to be called a gift from God either. I'm sure it sounds like a great thing to Christian parents, who are more than happy to think of any children as gifts from God.

But to me, it really says "We know there's something wrong with you, but we're too ashamed to admit it, so we'll call you something really nice." The nicer a euphemism sounds, the more obvious and painful it is. When it starts to sound fluffy ... that's just too much.

I was not a gift, and I did not come from God. My parents created me themselves and have felt burdened by me ever sense. They've always called me "gifted", but it's quite obvious that it's not what they really think of me.

It's like saying "awesome" when you mean "disabled".

the GFG comment was not meant to offend. Sorry....


I think my thing was inital shock about his dx that I didn't even focus on that....

and I didn't mean to upset you either, whaeveryousay2007. It is no fun being AS or being the parent of an AS so I didn't want to make it any worse for you, either.

I was shocked at the callousness of the doctor's calling us anything other than human beings.

all the best,

Merle

It was a DOCTOR who called him a "gift from God"?
I had thought it was the teachers at his school who used this term, and I therefore assumed your son attended a private, religious school.
If my doctor started spouting God talk, I would smile and nod and find a new doctor.

I think that the school system & docs are so focused on "labeling" that they don't take the time to figure out a solution......