Are you embarrassed by some of your AS symptoms?

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I was curious to see if anyone else was embarrassed by some of the "negative" symptoms of Asperger such as a Lack of Social Interaction, eye contact, meltdowns, etc. and if you openly discuss these symptoms outside of WP. I find that I do not like to openly discus these shortcomings because of the negative context that they are usually discussed in.

Yes, saying inappropriate things and problems with reciprocity make me feel embarrassed each time.

Yes.

Yes and no. I sometimes get frustrated because my vocabulary is much larger than those I work with and it can tend to make people think I am talking down to them when that is not my intention. I also do go off on a tear and data dump a lot, even though I try to control it.

Now that I'm a little more self-aware, yes. Very. I manage to use it to make really funny remarks though, if the point was being inappropriate. It only gets me in trouble sometimes.

Yes at times I am. I cant exactly say I am embarressed more fustrated and depressed. Its really hard for me to spontaneously interact with people and modify my behavior in different contexts. And I get paranoid when I think I might see someone turning me off. I do openingly discuss it with good friends. But really beyond that, its hard to openly discuss it due to the misunderstandings I encounter.

Yes, but I've stopped worrying about it. I have face blindness and can remember very few faces, so on countless occasions I've introduced myself to people I already know. But people around me know about it, so they usually tell me in advance who is approaching so that I can recognize the person. I have a very good situation memory and I can recall virtually any discussion I've had, so as long as I know where I met the person, and what we talked about, I'll know who it is.

Yes. I'm embarrassed because of my meltdowns, my lack of empathy and my lack of an ability to have a two-way conversation. Oh yeah, and the fact that I constantly say rude/inappropriate things without meaning to.

So basically, I'm embarrassed because of all of the social problems that AS causes me.

I am a bit less frightened by meltdowns than I was in the past, now that I understand them. But they are exceedingly embarassing for me. Not to mention harmful to a career!
Other things like stimming I try to hide, or keep to socially acceptable levels (hard but using the darn rubberbands has helped!). No one has asked yet.
Questions from curious accquaintances however, about my lack of a love life can be both embarassing & deeply painful.

Sincerely,
Matthew

yes some of the weird things that i say and how my fingers move sometimes.

Yes indeed.

Yes, my meltdowns and temper can be quite embarrassing, especially when kids are nearby. I also get on rants on work when people do stupid things and tend to be extremely blunt to the point where people might think I'm trying to ridicule them. It also sucks not being able to keep any friends and being without a girlfriend my entire life.

god, yes. I have been in phases of my life where I very literally spend every moment in public embarrassed about something or another that I've done - even when I 'know' that most of it just passed everyone else by without a second thought.

To be honest, the best times in my life were with academics and drunks. The academics make some amount of sense to start with, but it's only recently that I started really thinking about why I liked the bar life so much.

I think I mostly tied it down to the fact that I didn't feel embarrassed all the time! Firstly, given a few drinks, I feel less worried about it to begin with. There are dozens of other reasons, though - you have a ready-made excuse as to why you don't remember someone you've been introduced to multiple times, I'm not the only one who can't hear a damn thing in the room, I can smoke which is all kinds of helpful, and I can make completely inappropriate remarks without anyone even giving me a double take...

sorry, the answer was yes, I am =P

Lack of eye contact. I'll be painfully yearning to look my dad in the eye while we're talking, but I know it won't happen.