Do other Aspies annoy you?

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23 Jun 2012, 11:42 pm

Ok, so I can't point the finger - I'm diagnosed with Asperger's.

But, we all suspect my Dad has AS....it takes one to know one, and I won't go into detail, but he has all the characteristics. He thinks so himself.

I'm visiting him for break from college, and it's all great, but my gosh, he's annoying me. We have a lot of the same Asperger's behavior, so I feel bad about being annoyed, but I am. I'm sure I'm just as annoying, and my mother (who has Bipolar II) will attest to both of us setting her on edge.

So, anyone - do other Aspies annoy you at times? Even though you deal with similar issues?

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23 Jun 2012, 11:45 pm

Unfortunately, yes. Even though it's hypocrisy, some AS traits are very annoying. Even ones that I share.

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23 Jun 2012, 11:50 pm

Like what traits?

I would say, my worst is the other person not being invested in what I'm saying because they are in their own world. They want to go on about their interests and I want to go on about mine, and neither of us want to listen to each other...

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23 Jun 2012, 11:55 pm

As much as I hate to admit it, I do get annoyed by other people with Asperger's sometimes. But I'll be the first to admit that in order to be my friend or have any kind of long-term interaction with me, you need the patience of a saint. Between all my mood swings, changing interests and childlike attitude, it's a wonder anyone puts up with me at all.

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24 Jun 2012, 12:00 am

Yes some of them do annoy me. As a matter of fact when someone has the exact same trait as me, I get annoyed. Sometimes I feel bad knowing it's not something I can help but the rest I know that can be worked on and I see it as me realizing how I appear to others and I can work on it so no big deal. Then sometimes I wonder if something is a coincidence because they happen to have AS too and I happen to be the same way but I then wonder "is that Aspergers or just a coincidence?" because I have no idea if it's AS or just our personality and we both happened to have the same condition.

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24 Jun 2012, 12:02 am

EstherJ wrote:

You answered your own question. The awkwardness when neither party knows what to say is also annoying at times. Not knowing when you need to let things go or when you have gone to far is another big one.

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24 Jun 2012, 12:07 am

My uncle. He can be a huge jerk sometimes.

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24 Jun 2012, 12:10 am

EstherJ wrote:

Yes.....I have this problem with my dad........I find his monologing about his interests really really annoying (like your dad he's undiagnosed but my mom and I think he has AS) even though I go on too long about things and go in too much detail too (although I'm actually not quite as bad as my dad).

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24 Jun 2012, 12:11 am

IdahoRose wrote:

But I'll be the first to admit that in order to be my friend or have any kind of long-term interaction with me, you need the patience of a saint.

Same for me....my friends must BE saints then...
That's ok though - you make friends with good people then, right?

League_Girl wrote:

Because Dad's not diagnosed, I have this same kind of confusion. But, its even more confusing when the neurotypical people I know have a bout of similar behavior...then I'm weirded out.

metaldanielle wrote:

Do you find that you can tell when other people need to let things go, but you can't tell when you do, yourself?
I seem to have that going on too....

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24 Jun 2012, 12:13 am

daydreamer84 wrote:

EstherJ wrote:

Same here. My Dad's monologuing is about dogs and tornadoes. Mine is about horses and history. I think neither of us care about the other's interests...

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24 Jun 2012, 12:14 am

IdahoRose wrote:

Yes........the same is true of me..............I don't know how anyone puts up with me.............although most people don't for very long.......I don't have a great track record of keeping friends.............but my mom has the patience of a saint......absolutely!

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24 Jun 2012, 12:14 am

EstherJ wrote:

metaldanielle wrote:

Do you find that you can tell when other people need to let things go, but you can't tell when you do, yourself?
I seem to have that going on too....

Yes, very much so. Imo that is one of the reasons why most people don't like me.

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24 Jun 2012, 12:20 am

Especially when they use the term "aspie" and/or "aspergian".

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24 Jun 2012, 12:25 am

Dillogic wrote:

Especially when they use the term "aspie" and/or "aspergian".

I hate the term "aspergian." I only use Aspie around others with the same condition. Is it an offensive term here?

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24 Jun 2012, 12:27 am

No idea. Seems to be something just a few dislike (or are vocal about it).

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24 Jun 2012, 12:28 am

Don't spend much time with other people and really try not to put labels on people either. So I haven't noticed any Aspies lately.

But the bi-polar chick in the upstairs apartment is annoying as hell. Her constant slamming of the front and back doors and monthly crying/screaming jags are hard on the ears. She's in her own hell and I kinda feel sorry for her and her husband in a schadenfreude kind of way.

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