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I have aspergers and sometimes i dislike crowds cause of my sensory issues.


tommorow i am doing an over the phone interview with this lady who works in a fairly big food store in the middle of my towns shopping mall. I will not work on the cash machines cause i am bad at maths but given that often i dislike crowds do you think this job is not right for me? my parents organised it for me and i am a bit annoyed wiht them becasue they are setting me up too fail. not only that but on lunch breaks i will probably have too go out into the town with my work buddies and i might have panick attacks because my town can be crowded sometimes.

my parents talked me through other job options like doing IT work in an office but they are still insistent (and always have been) that i work at this big food store that can be noisy and loads of people go in there too buy shopping. the reason they want me too work at this store is because its a really big local employer and according the staff there are very nice and friendly. they said that if i did an IT job i may not like the people i work with. they also want me too work for experience etc......



Personally i think if i even do land this job i will not be able too hold down for very long too say the least? I don't understand why my parents force too do these kind of hectic jobs because there is straightforward work too do like a security operator or whatever.

it's you who'll be working there. It's not up to your parents where you work.

Working in a shop won't always mean working in the shop with the customers where all the noise is. You may be working with the stock where it's generally quiet.

Yeah fair enough but what about lunchbreaks where i might have too go out into the crowded town with my work pals?

Also there a bound too be occasions where i will have too go out into the main store and help customers or stack shelves.


on a final note...... well you could have fooled me because at the moment my parents making my choices for me.

Hmm I don't know what to say really. I hate when people use cliches like ''oh you've got to try these things'', ''oh you can't run away from people or crowds all your life'', ''when it comes to employment, you can't be too fussy'', and all of that. Personally I don't agree to any of that. I know people who say that do mean well, and are just trying to be encouraging, and they do have a point, but those sorts of advices don't work for everybody, and it'd be nice if more people understood that crowded environments aren't for everybody. And people must understand that it is easier to walk out of a job than to get one, so once you're in a job and you walk out, you'll then be jobless again and people will then criticise that ''you had a job then walked out!'' So the best thing is for people not to put you in somewhere where you'll know you'll feel uncomfortable in the first place. It isn't easy when people make you do things what you don't want to do.

Unfortunately I don't really know what to suggest.

i talke too my parents a few mins ago about just working the stock area and they said too me "no you will have too do more than that"

Do they mean you'll have to do more than what you expect when working in the stock room, or do they mean you won't be able to be put just in the stock room you'll have to do more areas in the whole shop?

I know someone that has a relative with social anxiety and they helped them get a job and encouraged them to get the job working a register instead of working in the back somewhere. I mentally facepalmed when they said that. Maybe it will work out for them. I don't know. To me it kind of seems like they are being set up for failure.

I think some people just don't understand. Their attitude seems to come from the viewpoint that they tried hard things and things they were scared of and they weren't as bad as they thought they would be and they did ok. They don't understand the people for whom it's just as awful as they feared if not worse and tend to fail. Over the years I've learned to mostly ignore other people's advice because they aren't the ones to suffer if I follow their advice when it clearly won't work for me.

I don't know...I tried till work in a supermarket (work experience) and in a charity shop (voluntary work) and learnt that doing till work isn't my thing, and that nobody can lecture me because I have tried it. I just found the customers too pressurizing, some were demanding, some were awkward, and I just felt it wasn't my thing.

i think they meant more areas