Are you easily confused?

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By social situations, breaks in routine, things like that?

I'm super easily confused. Today as I was leaving church a lady that is very nice to me said have a good week, and I said "Hi Laura" even though it was the end and I meant to say Bye!! or something that would have made more sense, since I had already said hi to her before. Ooops oh well! That is just me. Getting a hi or a bye of me is progress, for me, I guess I can always hope someday it will even be the appropriate response. There were a huge amount of people standing there so I was just trying to find a route of exit.

I'm confused and utterly perplexed by NT traits. One in particular I don't get is "talking for the sake of hearing yourself talk." I'll explain. Say, for instance, you have a lousy boss. He's really mean to the employees and he's basically evil. You say to your fellow workers, "Hey, you know, we need to tell the boss about himself." Your co-workers will agree with you. They'll say, "Yeah, let's tell him off." But when that say arrives, where are the co-workers? No where to be found. They were just saying that just to hear themselves talk but they never meant it.

When I was in a band, I asked the other members if they were serious about making it. They said yeah. Of course, when push came to shove, they weren't serious at all. They'd just stated that just to hear the sound of their voice. It's an NT behavior that, as long as I live, I'll never understand.

Confusion is treated like curiosity - Internet.
I am pretty quick at figuring things out though. Why people fall in love though I will never understand.

Certain things confuse me and others don't. That's one that does, even though I'm in love with my girlfriend. I mean, I see what I like so much about her and what other people like about each other, but I'm not sure what makes it turn into love. I'm especially perplexed when people like or love me. i don't know what makes that happen. It's like trying to understand what makes people call each other on the phone for no reason.

Extremely. If they move furniture around I feel like I do not KNOW my house. Like it cannot possibly BE my house. I need a lot of reassurance on schedules. I ask repeatedly to re-confirm, which i think comes off as pedantic. And certain emotional situations make me feel like I am in an entirely different "station".

Not by routine breaks or social situations. Sometimes when my routine is different, I get muddled up with what day it is, but everybody does that, I often hear people say ''ohh, I keep thinking it's [day] because I haven't done [name of usual task] today!''

I get more confused about NT behaviour. I don't mean mundane behaviour, I mean their deeper thoughts. Often people come out with things what I can exactly relate to, and what I thought I was the only one who thought that because I have AS, and even if they are unusual or strange, and then I think, ''hmm, maybe my mind ain't that different to NTs after all.'' It happens enough times to get me confused, not just occasionally.

if something makes little sense, for example: society, confusion is the correct and logical response

Based on those things, yes. Socially my brain more or less freezes and I don't know what to say or how to present myself, so I wing it most of the time with varying results. If I'm in a set up were a routine has been established I will get annoyed and unsettled if it becomes unstable and changes around.

I become confused when I receive two contradictory commands ("do *insert task here*"--"no, that won't be necessary" - this coming from two people of the same rank, so who do I obey?) or am told to do two things at once that is simply not possible to do ("go load the program on the computer." and "help me get my cat out of the tree" - the computer isn't a laptop, so I can't take it up with me on the tree while retrieving said feline). Social interaction is another area that causes confusion. I was at the local store when a female employee just started talking to me out of the blue. I must have looked quite awkward, since I was trying to make an effort to reply to her questions, but kept staring off and stammering (I wasn't prepared to talk to anyone; I just wanted to purchase something and leave). At the same time, I was trying to figure out what to do with my hands and where to look without seeming creepy or "suspicious."

I get confused a lot because I take things really literally. Metaphors I've encountered or painfully obvious ones are fine but otherwise I will be oblivious to what the person is saying. People think I'm stupid because of things like this; which is fine most of the time because it can be a benefit if people underestimate you but in the world of work it is awful because your inability to comprehend trivial (trivial in the sense that it doesn't affect the job in any material way - in fact my performance has always been in the highest bracket) social nuance like that can make managers think you are an idiot who can't be trusted with responsibility. Grr.

I get very confused when I have a break in my routine. I also feel a little disoriented as well.

I get confused very easily, especially when someone at work is explaining how to do something in a very NON-linear fashion. Then another coworker adds some random instructions and I am even more confused. I'm sure everyone thinks I am extremely stupid.

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I get easily confused if someone sends me a text that is worded or punctuated weird.

It depends. If things are thrown at me in rapid fire succession, then yes, I will get confused. If someone interrupts me in the middle of something like counting money then I can get screwed up and need to start over. I have messed up the cash drawer at work a few times because of slight interruptions lately and it is starting to scare me. I think it's getting worse as time goes on. What's bad is that when I screw up, it means the store manager needs to count down the drawer and waste her time due to my mistake. She knows it was an honest mistake (and always comments on how surprisingly honest I really am) but I still know it makes me look bad.

The more someone is hovering over me to see if I'm moving fast enough or doing things right, the more likely it is that I'll mess up. This happens to NTs, too, but an Aspie is more likely to be assumed to need the hovering and less likely to be understood if reacting badly to it.