Holidays are horrible.

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Does anyone else on the spectrum dislike/hate going on holiday?

I find holidays extremely stressful.

No routine. Uncertain plans. Alien environment. Sometimes way too much stimulation.

I am on a walking holiday in the Lake District (Cumbria, North England) with my Dad. I love walking in the countryside but I am homesick and there is no routine here. Also I miss my bedroom at home.

I nearly ran off to Windermere station and caught a train to London two days ago.

I cannot cope with this alien environment.

Also my Dad is annoying me in multiple small ways, which is cumulative to one big annoyance. For example he eats things he drops on the floor and leaves a mess everywhere, which messes about with my OCD tendencies. And he refuses to keep to a routine despite the fact that I need routine to stay stable?

Does anyone else get problems on holiday?

I want to go home. Thankfully only two and a half days left!

Yes vacations are more stressful than they're worth for me.

I actually thought this was a post about specific holidays, like Christmas and the like. As you might expect, I don't care for those kind s of holidays at all. I'm depressed a lot of the times, but the holidays make it worse. Christmas is the worst because it lasts the longest. Thanksgiving, New year's Day, Valentine's Day, etc. all depress me to no end because I'm always alone. I'm between jobs now so I'm technically on vacation. I have no one forcing me to do things I don't want to, though. I'm free to write to my heart's content. This has been a pretty fruitful vacation so I can't complain.

Nearly every year I think about not showing up on Christmas. But every year I realize nothing will change because they will believe in the wrong cause of my absence.

Christmas is extremely stressful for me because my Dad drags me off to Cyprus to see my family. Greek celebrations are loud, busy and full of drunk people and screaming kids. I went non-verbal several times during such celebrations due to severe stress. In fact last year I took 10mg of Haloperidol and 20mg of Olanzapine to knock myself out and sleep in a bedroom for the whole thing.

I am going to ask my occupational therapist if she can talk to my Dad on my behalf about cancelling my trip to Cyprus this year because I'm worried it will make me relapse. Already during this holiday my mental health symptoms are fluctuating between mild and moderate-severe.

In the UK, holiday usually means vacation. It can also just mean time off school or work, like the 7 week summer holiday or a public holiday. We don't call Christmas the holiday season, maybe the festive season or we're more likely to just say 'Christmas'. Normally when a Brit says they're on holiday, it usually means they've gone off somewhere else for a nice break, or sometimes that they're on a break from work/school.

I hate it, and I don't see the point.

Alien environment, lack of structure - yep, horrible.

I like going somewhere on my own, if it's my choice. If it's a necessity, it's stressful at first, but I can look it up and plan how to get there, where to go and so on, and usually enjoy it. But with other people, having to take account of their wishes and changes of mind... no no no!

I hope the 2 1/2 days pass very quick for you.

I love holidays. I love visiting different place and exploring. It's all so exciting, and it gives me a break to my boring, miserable life. I know I've got to come back to it all, but it's still nice to say that you've been on holiday and you've been to so-and-so. But the trouble is, what spoils my holidays is the socialising part of it. Whenever I go on holiday, I've always got to go with NTs because all my family are NTs, and they always have to meet other people and then let themselves get involved with them. Well, having the odd small talk with a couple of people is as far as I would go, but I am not one to dress up every night and sit around the bar, practically watching my cousins chat up the sexy cocktail waitress at the bar or the cute guys at the bar. NTs can be so naive sometimes, not realising that these strangers they are talking to at the bar are people who they will never see again, and only fancy them because they are all dressed up at this precise moment, and that these bar people meet different holiday-makers every week and so all the flirting is completely false, and yet all my stupid naive cousins still fall for it. One of my boy cousins (aged 21) has even got some Polish girl's number (some sexy little 16-year-old he met at the bar in Greece), and he went home all thinking ''oh my God I've got her number'', and he spent the next two weeks waiting for her to text him, which she never did. Then he found her on Facebook but she didn't accept him as a friend. Then he went all miserable, whilst I sat looking through all my lovely photos I had took on our lovely holiday, and all the souvenirs I had brought, and I was pleased that all my friends liked what I had got them. I'm glad I got more kick out of my holiday, rather than coming back feeling rejected.

I love visiting other places and soaking up the atmosphere. However, I'm the one in the family challenged with organising absolutely everything. I do my homework and I'm told that I always make good choices, but it's a big responsibility.

We usually take my parents with us and they say they are happy to go along with whatever we decide. My Dad is always very easy going, but my Mum can be a complete nightmare, especially where food is concerned. We were in Canada a few weeks ago and finding places to eat was really stressing me out. My husband is vegetarian and the only meat I eat is fish, but we are really easy to please other than that and never have problems finding something to eat anywhere we go. But, my Mum, who apparently eats anything, is actually a real fuss pot. We were in a food court and I suggested getting pitas, filled with whatever we liked. That was fine for 3 of us (daughter would only eat from Subway during the whole holiday), but my Mum's face screwed up and said she was going for something else. So, I went to another counter with her (she can't seem to order without help), where she saw a wrap, filled with chicken, ready made with salad, etc. It was practically the same as what she would have gotten at the pita counter, only difference being that she could have chosen exactly what went into it. She could not see that pita=wrap=bread. When she gets something that she's not too happy with, I feel like I'm getting the blame. I suggested it afterall (well nobody else makes any suggestions, so it's always me).

So, I'm currently looking into arranging a holiday in October. The Lake District is looking likely, as it's south but not too far. Sorry SteelMaiden, but we do like it there.

I don't really mind going anywhere but big cities. I don't understand the appeal in the first place, not too mention how cramped and busy they can get. I don't mind some rural areas or quiet shoreline spots, though.

And I hate flying! Turbulence upsets my equilibrium to the point where I am motion sick for days. On top of that, I have this theory that humans weren't intended to be hurled at 300mph 30,000ft in the air...

I feel your pain !

I have not been on holiday for a while now, my wife took our daughter to Egypt, I stayed at home and decorated
At least now I know why I don't like them and my wife understands !

Rosehill nr Sutton ?

Stu

I only like holidays because they mean a day off from work. But I don't like holidays themselves. Too chaotic.