Hi burtsbees1... I'd like to make a suggestion for a completely different approach to your dilemma..
You said:
I can't drive due to anxiety and don't have any way to get to a job. Where I live there are no places to work within walking distance and I don't have any money for public transportation. I have never had a job for long because the managers felt that I was being rude to customers, and I have never got along with coworkers and don't know how to have a conversation with them. I have a very hard time talking to people that I don't know and I have a hard time keeping eye contact.
From reading that, I'd like to suggest that there ARE income opportunities for you, regardless of these issue.
Please don't let these problems stop you from becoming fully independent and self reliant financially.
Here are some ideas:
- consider other ways of getting to where you need to go.. public transit, car-sharing, cabs, etc. Many communities offer ways to share rides, it may just be a job to find them
- try to think creatively about where you can work - either work from home, or find creative things to do locally.
Observations: Clearly, you have access to a computer, and are able to clearly express yourself. Already that puts you ahead of many, many people in terms of qualifications....
There are many, many opportunities to work from home, either on your PC or in some other fashion. There are tons of businesses that need help to do things for their websites . You can offer your services to them, or for that matter, start your own online business. Working on a computer will eliminate most of your worries about inter-actions with other people.
There are also some companies that recognize that people with Aspergers or mild autism are ideal as programmers, testers, etc. SAP is an international company that has publicly stated that they are looking for people with Aspergers because they make ideal employees.
Don;t want to work on a computer? Consider doing physical jobs - lawn care and snow removal, junk removal, painting, cleaning, etc. There are many people that have created large businesses doing just that.
Please don't think of your issues with inter-personal relations a lifetime sentence. It is very possible that you can learn how to cope, and possibly eliminate these problems if you focus on improving it. There are a lot of self-help books, as well as programs or coaches that can assist you.
You're not alone in working with whatever your personality traits are. There is help from people who have gone before you.
On this site even, there is reference to a book to help you find employment...
Look at the home page, and you'll find:
The Complete Guide to Getting a Job for People with Asperger's Syndrome
Find the Right Career and Get Hired
I strongly recommend that you consider options for self-reliance over reliance on support systems from others.
Develop your own path, based on your interests and strengths and do your best to keep growing and developing your skills in all areas.
Resigning yourself to receiving social assistance may sound like an easy or desirable option - but only in the short term.
In the long view, you would end up spending the rest of your life trying to justify all the things that you CAN'T do, which over time will rob you of confidence and self-respect.
Please don't go there....
Focus on opportunity, wherever you can find it, and you can create a happier, more fulfilling life for yourself.
You CAN do this. The first step is to imagine the possibilities, then just start experimenting...
Offered only in kindness...