Do you find this type of gossip boring?

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I don't mind gossip, and I like the ''oh did you hear about....?'' gossip, especially if it's about people who I know of. But does anyone find the type of gossip where a group of people are talking about a whole family of people who you don't know? Sometimes my mum and her sisters and brother say things like:-

Mum: I saw A the other day
Sister 1: Where does she live now?
Mum: She lives up [name of street]
Sister 2: Didn't her brother die?
Mum: Yeah, that was some years ago now
Sister 1: Was it the older brother or the younger brother?
Mum: I thought she only had 1 brother
Sister 1: No, she had 2 brothers. One was my age, and I think the other one was Sister 2's age
Sister 2: They had a sister aswell, didn't they?
Mum: Yeah, B used to work with her
Sister 2: That's right. Where does she live now?
Mum: Up [name of street]

And it goes on and on like that. Does anyone else find this boring? And then people find me boring when I talk about the people whom I'm obsessed with, because they don't know them. Now I know it's boring hearing people having deep conversations about people you never heard of.


ps. I'm not bashing any NTs.

Parts I find boring:

Mum: I saw A the other day
Sister 1: Where does she live now?
Mum: She lives up [name of street]

Sister 2: That's right. Where does she live now?
Mum: Up [name of street]

For some reason I just don't care about where people live.

Parts that are somewhat interesting:

Sister 2: Didn't her brother die?
Mum: Yeah, that was some years ago now
Sister 1: Was it the older brother or the younger brother?
Mum: I thought she only had 1 brother
Sister 1: No, she had 2 brothers. One was my age, and I think the other one was Sister 2's age
Sister 2: They had a sister aswell, didn't they?
Mum: Yeah, B used to work with her

I say somewhat interesting because I enjoy talking but something deeper would be preferrable. This is something and I still like it but not nearly as much. I like to get close to people.

The subject is more interesting. For some reason I like to hear about significant events that would be very emotional such as the death of a sibling mentioned in this example. Knowing where people live is to trivial for me but heavy things are okay. The number of siblings is kind of trivial but it is still a discussion about family so it's not as bad as talking about where someone lives.

I wouldn't care for any of that.

Yup.

I'd find it more interesting if: I heard how the brother died, what the people 'do', and what sort of house they live in. I'm not interested in surface skimming. I guess I have a 'so what?' attitude.

Yes I would find that incredibly boring.

Well, it's not really what they're talking about, it's how they're talking about it. And if I know or heard of the people they're talking about, then it's more interesting.

Yes, this is extremely snore worthy.

I find it senseless and boring.

If I knew nothing about any of the people in the OP's conversation, it would indeed bore me to tears. Everyone moves and has people die... I'd care if they were people I knew, but otherwise zzzzzzz....

I don't dislike pointless gossip, I hate it. I've made attempts recently to form a friendship with some people at the dog park. It was actually going well; they invited me to diner and other get together with a small group of 6-8 people. then the gossip started about people in the neighborhood. A few occasions like that and I just cut contact with them. I don't know why people can't just mind their own f*****g business. Seems like most people can't feel good about themselves without putting someone else down behind their back. Then when they're all talking to each other face to face they fake being nice. gossip seems pretty 'chickenshit' to me.

I don't care about any of that.

I don't understand gossip and I would rather talk about airplanes, movies, the latest computer games and sit with my friends with a Dr Pepper a pizza and watch the football than be bothered with NT people emotional personal issues.

I find all gossip boring. I am unable to care when people gossip. I just go and enter fantasyland.

Shallow topics are so dull. I only care about deep emotions.

Extremely boring. My responses are usually:

Mhmm?

Yeah?

Oh.

I see.

If it relates to some relevant topic, maybe. Generally, tough gossip is boring. I certainly DO NOT CARE WHAT CELEBRITY WENT INTO REHAB yesterday. Or who is dating who around the watercooler.

Sincerely,
Matthew