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I have Asperger's but sometimes I feel normal and sometimes I don't. I'm very uncomfortable around ppl sometimes( its hard for me to talk to ppl sometimes) cant get my thoughts across to ppl at all, have trouble defending myself in arguments (as in Im unable to think at all sometimes and I do things without thinking ( I don't think thru things) my thoughts get muddled and I jump from one subject to the next before I'm done talking about the first thing. I get very nervous around ppl and I feel boxed in a lot and ive been starting to spend a few hours by myself during the day away from other ppl and ive never done that before. I get angry about everything and I'm very emontional and I cant hide my feelings.

What is wrong with me? Is my Asperger's getting worse?

i need some time alone every day to recharge. all introverts do, whether they have aspergers or not.

Is there a small object you could take with you to fiddle with in ur pocket?
I have a few things I take out with me and I find they do help sometimes when I'm starting to get overwhelmed

I actually started doing the alone time thing when I first suspected myself of being on the spectrum. I found that it helps me relax and focus better on the things I need to get done. As for the other things, I can relate to them to a point. It really depends on who I am arguing with and how they make me feel. In some instances I can be very confident and win my case by using certain methods I have perfected over the years. However, if it is someone who is violent and irrational, I can't do it. Then again, I also know that I don't have to. There is no law stating that I need to be ready to argue at all times. If someone is irrational, drunk, high, insane, etc. then there really is no point in arguing with them since you can't win and they have no interest in reason.

The most important thing to remember if you want to win an argument is this: The person asking the questions is in control of the argument and is winning. Watch politicians, etc. arguing with each other. They answer questions with questions to try and wrestle control from the other party. Winning then is NOT always about who is right and who is wrong but rather who wins the battle for control. This may not sound logical, but it is actually how it works in the real world. Remember that people are more likely to like someone who is confidently wrong than timidly right. It may not be logical but then neither are humans. In the end, the person who wins is the person who wins the emotional battle and not the logical one. It may not sway an aspie or an autie, but as 98% of the world is NT, you are statistically better off knowing how they think than trying to make them know how we think.

None of the symptoms you speak of are associated with aspergers.

Sounds like your under stress and are becoming emotionally distraught, on top of having aspergers.

You need counseling for the stress.

Had a friend who had every mental problem BUT aspergers, and he used to act like what you're describing.. Was very emotional. And if he was talking about something he was emotional about he would constantly go off on tangents (until some doctor apparently coached him not to do that, and he stopped).

Yes I was diagnosed with mild Asperger's, tourettes., odd, and your right iam stressed because of life. Its hard being a aspie sometimes but I'm glad iam an aspie cause I'm different and I see things differently.

Increased stress brings out Asperger's more. When you're calm you probably feel quite normal, at least I do. Then when I'm really stressed out I can barely control myself and emotions. Also being emotional is not always indicative of something being wrong-- people on the spectrum have two modes, emotional and well, for lack of a better term, cold. (I guess distant or numb or something else would work too) If being emotional is bothering you, find out what's triggering it. Is it out of the norm for you to be emotional? If you usually aren't and suddenly are, that could be a sign to look into.