Have you ever been introduced to someone you don't know?

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.......and felt like the person you know wasn't saying great things about you, based on how the person you were introduced to reacted to you?

I've had this happen on several occasions. Someone I know introduces me to someone I DON'T know. The person reacts to me weirdly -- the most common reaction is a look on their face like "I DON'T want to meet or get to know you." Of course, my interpretation could be incorrect.

......Which makes me feel like the people I do know are warning them that I am what......weird? strange?

It is not like I'm on bad terms with the people I know well - it is that there is this invisible barrier between me and the people they know.

Yesterday this happened with a cousin of mine. My family and I picked him up at the airport, and we ate at a restaurant on the way back. He (cousin) saw someone he knew at the restaurant, and introduced me..... It was someone he knew very well so had ample time to "warn" them about me.

Of course, maybe this is all a figment of my imagination. I don't think people I know would say bad things about me --- but they may be saying something else...... to warn them or something? i can't quite figure it out..


Have you ever gotten this feeling at all when being introduced to someone new?

What could be happening (best guess please)?

I sometimes felt that. But it may be that we just got a little "paranoid" sometimes, because of other reasons...

I suspect a more likely thing is that you're giving off the wrong signals unconsciously.

For example, when I was introduced to my partner's friends, several of them thought I really didn't like them, or hated them. No one could point out what things did it exactly, but some combination of silence, closed off posture, unconscious scowling, or who knows what convinced these people that disliked them and wanted to be away from them immediately.

So, I wouldn't assume your friends and family are talking behind your back. Does your family know about your condition/diagnosis? If so, and even if not, though you can be more open if so, you could just ask, "Soandso seemed kind of put off when we met. Did I do something wrong? Am I imagining it?"


There's a phrase I picked up somewhere that I love. Never attribute to malice what can be more easily explained by stupidity. But for aspies, a corollary might be "Never attribute to malice what can be more easily explained by miscommunication or incorrect assumptions."

Ah, thank you.

Edit for typos. Yeah. I typoed those three words..

Yes, mostly forced to try and make friends during school. Other than complete disinterest, when the other tries to talk to me, I'm terribly anxious and literally have nothing to say.