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mianoone
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12 Sep 2012, 3:50 pm

I tried to talk to a friend about my thoughts showing aspi behaviours. I really felt so happy to have found an explanation for my interests, getting bored when talking to people, getting really tired in a crowd and how exhausting it is to "tune" myself in loud or crowded situations. And I really hoped he would understand how relieved I felt to have a sort of explanation. But he got angry. I think that he thinks I m a bad egoistic person. I know that people dont understand these behaviours, but i thought he knew about me and my problems. I always feel like an actor, a learnt a lot about small talk and things like that, but everytime I do small talk cause I thought i could do it and like it, I regret it and think about getting away and doing more interesting things. I always feel as if my brain is an very interesting radio station and I alway look forward to listen to it. :roll:



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12 Sep 2012, 5:27 pm

mianoone wrote:
I tried to talk to a friend about my thoughts showing aspi behaviours. I really felt so happy to have found an explanation for my interests, getting bored when talking to people, getting really tired in a crowd and how exhausting it is to "tune" myself in loud or crowded situations. And I really hoped he would understand how relieved I felt to have a sort of explanation. But he got angry. I think that he thinks I m a bad egoistic person. I know that people dont understand these behaviours, but i thought he knew about me and my problems. I always feel like an actor, a learnt a lot about small talk and things like that, but everytime I do small talk cause I thought i could do it and like it, I regret it and think about getting away and doing more interesting things. I always feel as if my brain is an very interesting radio station and I alway look forward to listen to it. :roll:



You think that's tough, try it with a lover or "significant other".

It's a life of "damned if you do, damned if you don't - and damned if you learn to keep your mouth shut because you are supposed to be in a relationship".

From my experience, the need for people with AS to have a "private place" to retreat is not as much a trait of AS as it is a need for a hole to crawl into and die after the usual fireworks of honesty getting caught lying, or trying to keep your trap shut.

In short, it gets worse.



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12 Sep 2012, 6:44 pm

mianoone wrote:
I tried to talk to a friend about my thoughts showing aspi behaviours. I really felt so happy to have found an explanation for my interests, getting bored when talking to people, getting really tired in a crowd and how exhausting it is to "tune" myself in loud or crowded situations. And I really hoped he would understand how relieved I felt to have a sort of explanation. But he got angry. I think that he thinks I m a bad egoistic person. I know that people dont understand these behaviours, but i thought he knew about me and my problems. I always feel like an actor, a learnt a lot about small talk and things like that, but everytime I do small talk cause I thought i could do it and like it, I regret it and think about getting away and doing more interesting things. I always feel as if my brain is an very interesting radio station and I alway look forward to listen to it. :roll:

In what ways did he get angry? What was he angry about? This doesn't make sense to me, lol.

In any case, he sounds like a lousy friend so I would drop him.

And yes to everything else you said. Sounds just like me. :wink:



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13 Sep 2012, 1:45 pm

sorry, had to change my nickname ...I am mianoone...

I think he got angry because felt he had been used all the time...and HE doesn´t want to be boring. He might think I ´m arrogant, because I think my thoughts are more interesting than conversation with others /him. I think, I will never try to be honest about myself again



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13 Sep 2012, 1:50 pm

So he took it personally when you said that you were generally bored when talking to people? Yuck, people suck.