Sarcasm in a coffee shop

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Today i went out with a friend and along the way we stopped in at a coffee shop, as i entered there were a few people. i just acted confident as usual and took a seat with my friend.

The waitress came up and said ''can i take your order?'' i said sure ill have a hamburger with the lot and a cappucino. Then i asked oh can i have the hamburger with tomato sauce instead of barbeque? the waitress replied in a unfamiliar tone ''no we cant sorry'' .

So i replied in a dissapointed tone ''oh thats ok then... then all of a sudden she said ''of course you can have tomato sauce!'' i said oh and laughed a little.

This would be a major weakness for me understanding sarcasm with a stranger. i can get sarcasm with people i know but with strangers i find it really hard to pick up and take things literally.

Anyone else had similar situations?

Me: can I borrow a pen please?
Person at reception: sure, but these pens are really expensive so look after them [he smiles]
Me: but these are regular cheap plastic biros, why do you say they are expensive?
Person at reception: I was joking.

It's not sarcasm; it just friendly teasing, in which the person who is teasing expects you to take it seriously. If, in fact, you do, then you are merely doing what is expected and you reacted in normal way. Once the tease is revealed, you are both expected to laugh. It's just normal NT banter.

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argh my nt friend just told me she was hitting on me lol. i said really? and hes like yeah a girl doesnt do that to everyone.. i suck with girls lol

You don't know? Any time a girl is friendly with you she wants to bear your children.

She could have been hitting on you as well. Teasing doesn't eliminate that possibility!

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I was on my way to work on my bike during the olympics and this steward stopped me and said "Nice bike, can I have it?" I said "No" and carried on and he said "I was being funny..can you get off your bike when there's lots of people around please?" I don't know if asking for my bike was meant to be sarcasm or not..I'm quite a sarcastic person and usually understand sarcasm.

He should have been telling people not to walk there though..they were in the road.

my nt friend said she was flirting with me, i personally dont pick that stuff up. i trust nt people with that sort of thing.

Haha, this discussion makes me think of my husband before we were dating....

Me: I think that my mini fridge is broken, I wish I knew someone who could come take a look at it
Him: Can you describe the problem?
Me: I unplugged it and it leaked some water onto the floor
Him: That's completely normal, just mop it up
Me: But I really think that I need a man to come look at it
Him: If you think it's that necessary, maybe you should call someone

hahaha here's another one:

Me: I really wish I had someone to go apple picking with, I was thinking of going to a place by YOUR house
Him: I'm sure you can find one of your friends to go with

and another....

Me: Do you know how to ski?
Him: Yes and I enjoy it
Me: None of my friends like to go skiing, but I really want to go with someone
Him: Oh, that's too bad

By this time, I was positive that he wasn't interested and just gave up, than he asked me on a date!

Now that we're married, it goes more like this....

Me: *spills a gallon of water on the ground* OMG Get me a paper towel, quick!
Him: *gives me ONE paper towel*
Me: What is this going to do!
Him: You asked for a paper towel

haha you would think by now I might learn to be more direct.

No wonder I'm single then, as I've had conversations 99% like this. I do all the time actually.

Actually, what's worse is, anytime someone describes a mechanical problem, I'm like "OH, THAT'S EASY, JUST DOWNLOAD THE ENTIRE FACTORY MANUAL AND TAKE IT APART, NO BIG DEAL, TRY IT, I'VE DONE IT LIKE A BILLION TIMES!" Which I guess is even more awkward.

Of course there was the story of the girl who asked:
"Do you know anything fun to do around here?"
"Oh no, I don't do anything fun."

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I was told before that being sarcastic, even if it's a jokey sort of way, is poor customer service.

If she's flirting with you and is hot, it's good customer service.

NT's are good with sarcasm ...we take things literally

Now this made me smile quietly to myself... I luckily understand when to take things literally or not but always see both sides.
In my house there is a long standing joke about the word Orange.
Years ago I was in a restaurant with my wife but she was girlfriend at the time and her parents, I was asked what drink I would like, I answered Orange.
The waiter then said what type of orange, I repeated orange, he then asked Juice or squash, I again repeated the word orange. At this point my girlfriend attempts to help my saying, no he wants to know what type of orange, now to me I have given the answer, it needs no more info because if I wanted orange squash that is what I would have said !
Funnily enough I run a bar as part of my job, when people ask for orange, I get them orange I don't ask juice or squash, they get what they asked for.. my daughter helped out last week and someone asked for orange, she looked at me and said what does he mean, juice or squash ? he got juice and now shes gets why I was and am so annal about this sort of stuff.

The other day my wife was about to turn off the lamp in our room as I was walking in and she said "can you see if I turn this off"
So I said "go on then turn it off and I'll see that you do it" but I knew what she really meant .... pedantic is the word for being like me !

Stu

Me (I'm NT): "How can you drink coffee now?" (It was summer).
My aspie buddy: *pause... (confused look on his face) "I uh, put the cup up to my lips and sip it..."
Me: *LMAO, "I mean it's hot out, it's summer!"

I've been quite honest with my friend who's a literal aspie and I told him I love his frankness and that he should never change. Social ackwardness is a tenant of comedy.

Keep a straight face for a second, then smile and laugh too. When a person telling a joke thinks its not funny, ie, you don't laugh, fear starts to take over... Then smile and laugh and the person telling the joke feels relieved they didn't offend you and gives a hearty laugh because they feel you fooled them for a second.

I hope this helps.