Sidmor wrote:
What time is it? Depressing neurology facts time.
During small talk, the NTs are trying to find the identity of the others (for instance, what is appropriate to others) without committing to anything themselves. It doesn't matter what the topic is, but what is said about it.
There is this thing called a shared belief web. It contains the cultural symbols loaded with meanings that the NTs think with. The Autistics do NOT see or internalize these socially constructed beliefs (as much).
The communication is only fluid within a cultural group where the belief web is shared. That web already contains the answers (what to say) so there is no need to "calculate" it for the NTs.
In a fast and fluid communication, there is very little calculated thought. If you try to mimic it without memorizing the shared belief web, trying to think about what to say in real time, you might not be able to do it fast enough. These beliefs are far too numerous and dynamic to make explicit and teach one by one.
So, they don't exactly talk about nothing but they share their belief webs and culture. We do not and cannot do it nearly as effectively.
Do you have an example?
Also, what about when you get NT's who just waltz in halfway through, turn the conversation on themselves and then never give it back? Other NTs seem to tolerate this, even perhaps enjoy the new discussion, but I have no idea why. I find it self-centred, rude and irritating.
PS. I liked the video too Unreal3x
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AQ: 32 (up to 37 when answering instinctively); EQ: 21 - 24; SQ: 31
Reading the Mind in the Eyes: 32
RAADS-R: 85
RDOS Aspie score: 115/200; NT score: 79/200