n/ts dont believe i have a condition.

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Whenever i tell someone i have aspergers they laugh at me and say ''no you dont mate'' its all in your head. and i ask well why do you think that? and they say ''look at you , your not ret*d''.

Its weird because i think if i was skinny with glasses, firstly i wouldnt have friends, and secondly they would believe me.

I guess todays world is all about appearance. Anyone had similar experiences?

No one ever believed me. Everyone says I'm completely normal just weird/lazy/selfish/have a sh***y personality.

When I was at highschool, the only other people who knew I had HFA were other people on the spectrum. Everyone else just assumed I was an asocial jerk for no good reason.

My wife doesn't believe it either ; she thinks my aspie traits (including AQ score of 43) were caused by my past very isolated upbringing in total silent household with a single mother who hardly ever spoke, so I never got introduced to the idea of socialising and never had a 'daddy figure' in the family. Oh yes and of course the fact that I can't filter out background noise means I can't hear someone whispering when we're out in the middle of a noisy city.... that just means "I'm not paying attention to her and I should make more effort to listen..." etc... Yeah right.

People at work even point out another guy who's very smart, very intellectual, but a bit 'different' ; he talks endlessly about very specific interestes of his; and my colleagues say he's soooo aspie. When I mention to them whether they think I am a bit aspie, they all say "no way you're nothing like him, you're just a bit quiet".

That's the thing about being on the spectrum. You're functional enough to appear normal, particularly if you can train yourself to handle socialising or able to fake it really well, but not capable of non-stop chatter about 'this and that' on quickly changing trivial subjects so I tend to switch off after the first 20 minutes and feel exhausted.

Yes, I have been told that I "look too nice" to have Asperger's, and many people are very confused when I tell them of my diagnosis because they like to tell me how well I function in Life (ummm they know 2% about me and a lot of that 2% is what I have learnt over my Life to present to others in short bursts). The rest of the people don't even actually know what Asperger's is...

example:

GIRL: "You don't have Asperger's"
ME: "Um, I have 2 professional diagnoses plus an unofficial one from a woman who has it & is a counsellor of those on the spectrum, and works alongside Tony Attwood, and I completely connect with it all. Do you actually know what Asperger's is?"
GIRL: "No, what is it?"

???!?!?

When I was younger, I had a nice social group...don't know how it formed....I played games, I functioned quite normally, the only hint that something was up was my frequent meltdowns.

Nowadays I stim a LOT in public, I still have meltdowns, I never talk, I have no friends, I daydream so much that I'll run into people and run in circles and walk into things.

Most NTs didn't think I was rude or selfish, just repetitive and odd. They would give me nicknames like "Skippy" or talk to me like I'm low functioning.

Most NT's tried to be my friend, but I shut them out....

Yeah, it happened to me many times. Once I've met a guy who thought he has aspergers then I told him I think I might have it also. And he kept putting me laughing smileys on messenger and told me "no, maybe you have borderline but not aspergers". And I asked him "why man, I recognise 98% of the symptoms, how could you be so sure when you don't even know me well?". And he said that I look normal and I am not weird. But I think he believed i'm stupid because he was obsessed with Einstein and thought ALL the people with aspergers are very bright and special
The irony was that he had many friends and has never been bullied and I had none and have been extremely bullied in school.

You know, in a lot of ways, I'd consider this a compliment.

Hehe, this thread is funny to me, because I can relate to so much of it.