The Pragmatics Paradox & Aspergers

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Here's something that I don't get.

Well, in a way I do get it, but it seems odd to me. Let me explain:

As an Aspie, I have been criticized as many of us have, that I tended to use stilted or pedantic language in what should otherwise be more casual conversations with others. Or that I rambled and didn't get to the point. Or in a past job when I apparently wrote a lot of superfluous stuff (in emails, documents) that didn't get to the crux of the matter, as well-analyzed and presented as it was.

NOW...think of all those times where someone tried to engage you in casual chit-chat or small talk.
Like the ubiquitous "how are you?" and "how's it going?" or "what's up?"
Personally I'd prefer to just get right to the point, be more, ahem, pragmatic...use speech for function and collaboration on something of substance, ask them about opinions on a movie or sporting event or conspiracy theory or whatever. Why dwell on something inane like the weather, you can't change the darn thing!!

Yet somehow we're given a diagnostic label of lacking pragmatics in speech.
Funny how that happened!!
Isn't it?

Pragmatic in a restricted way?

Maybe it's limited understanding of the intentions of others, and the stress of trying to decipher, causing us to prefer directness?

For our production, it seems to be based largely on mimicry of complex grammatical forms.

Pragmatics of speech means the social aspects of speech in Linguistics. I think it was given this term because it refers to the practical use of speech (communication) as opposed to the structural aspects of speech, such as syntax (sentence structure), morphology (word form and structure) , phonology (sound patterns) etc. It doesn't have to do with being a practical or pragmatic person.