Spectrum symptoms= attempts to control others?

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I just heard a segment of "The Jesus Show" (radio call-in program that has answers about religious matters and common life situations), and the caller was talking about her husband's eating sounds triggering their teen daughter's hearing issues, saying that the daughter is being disruptive by reacting to the eating sounds, implying that the husband is entitled to eat the way he wants. The caller went so far as to say the daughter was trying to control people's behavior with her screaming at people to stop eating rudely. The husband called the daughter evil and told her she needs to move out (at 15). The host did suggest therapy, medication, and interestingly hypnosis, but no mention of ASDs from either side even though I heard an Aspergirl being described

Hearing this took me back to other situations I've experienced with family where I've been affected by behaviors and unilateral arbitrary rationalizations, to be told yet again I'm the only one with the problem and that I need to stop controlling others. Does any of this sound familiar?

My partner is a recovering drug addict/alcoholic. Lots of what he does in AA and working his steps is about looking at why he's resentful of other people because of the problems with himself rather than that person. A lot of it is also about control - you can't control other people if they're being out of line, so why waste your time getting upset about that when there's nothing you can do?

He often comments on me needing to plan everything and says it's just control issues. I guess in a way it is, but it's needing control for very legitimate reasons; to reduce my anxiety.

Expressing our need to be free from sensory disturbances is not equvalent to a need for control; it is merely a need to find comfort and peace. However, sometimes due to our fear of change, we prefer to try to modify the behavior of others than to make a change in our own lives... so, it sometimes comes across as control issues.

That propably because of auditive sensury issues.
I had the same and it got better over the years but I still can't stand certain sounds. Some are so terrible for me, that I have to cover my ears and ask people to stop if it's possible or I just go away.
Some sensory issues can be terrible.

I am a Christian and sadly I can see this happening in some households. There are some in my faith that see everything in purely spiritual terms rather than trying to understand the underlying issues that may be present that can cause certain behaviors. It's part of the reason why educating people on what autism really is, especially at the mild end, is so important. Sadly though, milder forms of autism are not sensationalistic enough topics for the major media to cover and so the majority of the public has no knowledge of it. Thus, some will use demons as a scapegoat for something far more benign.