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Their is this girl I used to like back in school. I liked her so much that I had my own idiosyncratic way of letting her know. I called her "birdy" and basically harassed her incessantly all through elementary school and Juinior High. She would get mad and start hitting me, and I would laugh. However, once I got into high school I kind of stopped talking to her. But then I found out through my sister that she was dropping subtle hints that she liked me back. She (my sister) said that her restinance to me was actually a result of her liking me back but being afraid to admit it. (probably because I am the way I am ) In my senior year I started talking to her a little more, and I one gave her a hug and she accepted. On the last day of school she gave me
an invitation to a graduation party, but like an idiot i lost it and was unable to RSVP .

I forgot about her for a while because I had a g/f at the time. But lately I've been thinking about her ALOT. I don't know whats wrong I'm like obsessed. I want to contact her but I don't thinks that possible for two reasons:

A: I have no idea of her whereabouts(ie. Moved, went away to college, has b/f or married, or joined the arm forces)

B:She might think I'm a creepazoid for contacting her and she basically might tell to **** off. But I was talking to a female friend of mine and she said I should try to contact her.

The problem is I have idea where she is and what shes doing. How can I cope with this? I want to contact her so bad, but I don't know how.

Justin

I am familiar with obsession like that, too. I really don't know what to do about it because I don't even know how to help myself.

Do you have any mutual friends with this person or know any of her friends?

I used to play viola. ( her and I were both in the orchestra and she played violin) I was stand partners with one of her best friends, but i've also lost contact with her. I don't know what to do.

I was just wondering. Do you knw where her parents are at (like living in the same house, same phone number, etc.) Because maybe if yo call them, asking to find a way to contact her, they might know and be willing to give you that information. It's just an idea. At least that's what I do, when I wat to do something with my friend who's off at college and I don't know her number, I call her parents to see about contact information

I don't think her mom would be too happy to have some guy calling asking for her daughter's number. If anything she would tell me to **** off. Another problem is what if she has a b/f. I don't know what to do. Part of me wants to look her up in the phonebook but i'm so afraid of the outcome.

Was this a school fling thing? Alot of the time people move on from those.

But it is possible that people don't. I guess you could try ringing her, it depends what you consider more important.