I need to know. Any grounds for requesting a diagnosis?

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I've posted a few times before with plenty of questions about possible aspie-ness, and I feel like I have been bouncing back and forth between thinking I have enough symptoms to talk to a professional about and thinking that I'm just an nt with pethetic social and life skills for about a year now. I've always had this feeling of being very different, and just remember mentally sitting back and watching others and then comparing myself with that and wondering why I was so different from everyone else. When I found the info on aspergers I felt so relieved that there could be an explenation, but after tons of research I began to wonder if I am really affected to the degree that it interfears with my life (and therefore warrents a diagnosis).

At first I thought that it didnt, but the more I started to really look at my life, the more worried I became. My biggest fear is going out on my own which I surely will have to do once I finally graduate college. I feel like my whole life will fall apart, and I don't know if these problems could be related to aspergers, or if I am just incompetent. If anyone could tell me if these things seem similar to what you go through with life skills, please let me know. I need to know if I have any grounds to suspect an aspergers diagnosis so I can finally get this question out of my head.

I never did well in school. Socially I had trouble making friends and usually just read or drew all day. I must have been the only kid in my school to get an ISS for being unprepared to class THAT many times! I finally made friends when my younger sister entered highschool because I was friends with her friends, and thats only because she kept bugging me to hang out with them, and eventually I did because I knew thats what people were supposed to do. In college I didnt do well grade-wise either. I just couldn't care enough, I would rather be drawing my characters or playing my mmo's. Eventaully my sister caught up to me and now I am making good grades because we do it togeather.

I'm sure by now you can see a theme. I'm scared that when I move out my life will fall apart. My house will never be clean, my bills wont get paid because it stresses me out and I dont know what to do (right now I just give the money to my mom and she pays them). Nothing I need to do will ever get done, and there will be no one to help me do them. Right now things only get done when my sister, mom, or dad push me too and/or do them with me. Its just all overwhelming when I dont know what to do or where to start, and it doesnt take long before I just feel like crying, getting angry, and giving up.

Of course theres the fact that socially I just cant seem to connect with anyone, like there's some invisible walk between us and I dont understand how to pass through it.

I know there is so much more to Aspergers than this, but this is already so long I cant possibly include it all here. I have spent a year obsessivly studing it and can pick males with aspergers out of the crowd so easily now. But I dont think I've ever met a girl with it, and I know we present differently which I think is why I am having so much trouble coming to a conclussion on this.

I know you all are probablly tired of seeing my postsabout this, and I know you can't tell me I have it or not. But if I could just get some opinons, does any of this sound right, do I have any grounds to ask for a diagnosis? I need to know, I am going crazy over it. Thank you, and sorry for the length (also for the misspellings, no spell check on my tablet).

if you're asking those questions to yourself so many times, and asking online, and you are upset worrying about it, perhaps it's time for you to ask a therapist?

I want to, but the only place I've found around here that know about aspergers and adults and seems legit is an autism and aspergers program in the Education department of my university. They diagnosis kids and adults, but I am also majoring in education so I'll be in that buidling a lot. I am just scared that I will go and not really have any legit grounds to ask for a diagnosis, and they'll just be like, why are you even asking?

I have read your post, here, and I think perhaps a trip to your general practitioner (family doctor) is in order, for you. That is commonly the first step. You normally can't go direct to a specialist (psychiatrist/clinical psychologist) without a referral from a GP anyway. What I think you should do is make an appointment with your doctor. Print out a copy of your post here, bring it with you and talk to your doctor about the concerns you have listed. Not just about the possibility of ASD's, but about anxiety, and, I think, depression, while you're at it.

The anxiety in particular. You are stressing yourself out with the self diagnosing. Taking steps towards treatment, whether that be in the form of meds or therapy or both, would be of some benefit to you. Don't worry about Aspergers. Set that aside. What I think you should focus on is the direct issues you are experiencing. Worry about the future, worry about social difficulties, feelings of alienation, concerns over inability to complete and feeling overwhelmed by day-to-day tasks, et cetera. Talk to your doctor about those. Your doctor will ask questions, and let me assure you, doctors see many many people about mental health problems, you will not be a unique part of their day. Don't feel nervous about that. Just answer honestly.

Good luck to you. Make that appointment.

I do think you should seek help. Whether or not it is Asperger's though I can't say. If that is something you feel the need to bring up then you will need to have the cooperation of your parents. This is because if it is an autistic spectrum thing, there would have been signs in early childhood and they will need to see the evidence of it to diagnose you properly.