Relaxation techniques that actually work?

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I feel I'm under a lot of stress right now.. not "real" stress, I don't really have much to do... more like inner tension... I'm very sensitive to noise, easily irritated, and I brood a lot... do any of you know a way to relax that actually works for Aspies?

I tried the "classical" method for a while (progressive muscle relaxation), but it didn't help at all, it was rather annyoing.

Relaxation techniques take at least a couple of weeks or months to work, especially when you have a lot of inner stress and unrest. The paradox is that they don't work as long as you have a goal in mind, like wanting to get rid of unpleasant emotions and brooding.

If you are much concerned with that, perhaps mindfulness is suitable for you. Mindfulness is based Buddhist meditation. It does not strive to reach any goal, but merely learn to accept whatever goes on within you and outside of you. Feeling annoyed or restless at first is quite common, also for NT's, so don't worry about that. It's OK and normal.

Here's a better explanation with a guided meditation to try.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3nwwKbM_vJc

I watch this:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0DoJ4I0NJR0[/youtube]

and also watch my fish swimming around in their tank. Don't know why, but water seems to relax me.

I second NewDawn's suggestion that you try mindfullness therapy. I took a mindfullness-based stress reduction course almost years ago, and it literally changed my life.

With practice, it will help you manage your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations in a less judgemental way. I really think it can help with irritability and brooding thoughts as it allows you to accept them and accept yourself without changing things or making things perfect. With an open mind, you'll feel more relaxed and at ease with yourself/

Do a google search to see if there are any mindfullness courses in your area...there's a chance that it will make you more calmer and focused in the long run. Best of luck.

What works with me:

Deep breathing (slow and deep inhale/exhale)
Diazepam
Ambient music
Jogging

Running/jogging used to work for me, but my bad back has seen an end to that. I found visulazation very effective while I was studying in college.

Sincerely,
Matthew

Lying on my bed is helpful for me.

Deep breathing is the only thing that works for me.

Deep breathing actually doesn't work for me after a certain point.

I use a lot of distractions--computer games, music, etc. Sometimes, journaling helps.