Why do I have SUCH an issue with doing work?

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I know some people out there may occasionally complain a little when it comes to doing work..... but I think my reaction to it takes the cake! I need to know what the heck is wrong with me. I'm not even kidding you, I remember this one time time when my mom asked me to do the dishes and I broke down crying. I am absolutely NOT a hard worker at all and when it comes to something not being easy and me having to put in more effort I feel like crying and the thought of it feels so overwhelming to me that I can't take it. I don't currently have a job yet, but honestly I can't see myself ever holding down a job without feeling like crying everyday.... that's going to be a huge problem. . Does anybody else have this problem? I feel this is something that will never change because it's just "in me", you know, it's who I am. Actually, I LOVE being very lazy, the only reason why I hope one day it will change is because my parents don't like it. so, yeah, comment below.....

Last edited by hey_there on 21 Oct 2012, 10:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I am the same way. Idk why I am like this any more than u do. It's like there is some sort of mental block. My brain reacts just like it would if I was asked to cause physical harm to myself.

Wow... I didn't think there was anyone else THIS extreme!

Do you have a job? have you ever had a meltdown at work? Imagine if we were roomates... wow.

I've had some kinds of work push me to the point of meltdown just from trying to do it. I don't have issues with all kinds of work, but sometimes it can be very hard if I don't know every detail of what I'm supposed to do. Someone telling me to wash the dishes with no other instructions would do that to me, unless I have done the dishes many times in that particular household.

Okay I am not that extreme but I am that way in other stuff like making phone calls. As for doing the dishes, if you don't know how to do them, just ask like ask where to start or what exactly do you need to do. You need steps.

I don't encounter this problem to this extreme a level, but I've been known to freak out when tasked with an assignment that I didn't know how to approach or deal with.

My bigger problem seems to be one of focus. I'm not lazy, but I get so caught up in certain tasks that others fall by the wayside, and switching from one task to another is a challenge, as is time management. Argh.

I don't know if this was addressed to me, but I do ask. I was thinking of situations in the past where I was working, and where I was given verbal instructions (verbal instructions and I do not mix) or barely any instructions and left on my own. I lost a job once because of this kind of thing, where I was told point blank that I had already been trained in the task (closing the store) and I just had to get it done. Except I couldn't because I didn't know what to do, despite the training.

Lol No, having a job would be impossible..

Ftr, it's not a matter of knowing how to do a task, tho not knowing will make it worse of course.

I have an odd way of dealing with dishes. Since I know that I am horrible at starting the task, what I do is a good pre-rinse when any dish goes in the sink. That way, they can sit for a week or a month without attracting insects. My issue is that I feel tired all the time and can't get motivated to do anything. I haven't vacuumed my house for months and probably haven't completely mowed my back yard for 2 months. Some of this is depression and some of this is inertia. Some of though is that I feel like nothing is real and nothing really matters. Somehow, it will all work out (until it doesn't). This naturally causes other problems which build until I just shut down. It all becomes this vicious cycle until either I push through it or someone else pushes me/fixes it for me.

I want to add that something that was a serious problem for me in the past but less so now is that as soon as I was hit with a task I didn't fully understand, I'd feel the start of a meltdown almost immediately. It's not always easy to ask for help when this happens.

I'm better at spotting these things, perhaps. More self aware.

Actually, I don't need steps because I understand how to do the work. I just do not want to do it at all! That's all it is, just pure laziness, I swear!

It is because you have no interest in doing it. You have to focus on the root reason for needing to do something. That reason has to interest you though. We flounder in modern society because so much of what we need to do has no real purpose from our point of view. If it is uninteresting and important why do it? Our minds flat refuse to focus after our subconscious asks that question.

Two things I suggest: Look into ADHD, and look into mindfulness practice. Mindfulness I find can become just like playing with your mind and attention, it's a game, and you can make everything part of these 'mind games', although it's got serious, powerful purposes behind it and the emotions evoked are not just crude 'fun' but a sense of contentment and joy even. I have ADHD and understand the fear of being overwhelmed by how much incredible, exhausting effort you know it might take to initiate and then focus on a boring task - and that's not your imagination, some people's brains really do have to expend much more energy and use different regions when a task lacks inherent interest than do those of people who are not "lazy" - but medication and mindfulness together have worked wonders for me.

The only solution for everyone is to make your interest (or one of them) be your work. Everything else will be contant annoyance and frustration.

Damn straight