I don't know what to do.

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I'm nearly 18 and after reading a lot about Aspergers syndrome I'm fairly certain I have it. I am not ashamed but I have decided not to tell any of my friends, teachers, etc. because I don't want to be labeled and I doubt they would understand. But Im struggling with whether to tell my family or not. At this point in my life I don't think telling them will be necessary with dealing with this as I have delt with the symptoms, up until this point, with little help or understanding from them. I'm scared that if I do tell them they will hold it against me. In the past they have been critical of me and my difficulties socially and in school, even mocking me. I'm just beginning to feel as if I can handle this but if that happens I don't know how I would deal with it.

speak to your doctor and ask to be referred to a specialist.

There is no reason to share your suspicions with anyone that you do not trust to take the news in a helpful way.

You could do something else, like say, read "Look Me in the Eye" and leave it lying around and see if anyone reads it. Then maybe you could just start a conversation that way. But that could backfire if they think you got the idea from a book.

I can tell you with near certainty, that people will just not believe you. They will say "what, did you read it on the Internet?" then disregard it. Lets face it, today everyone thinks they have some mental disorder. I remember in high school when a person was weird for not taking antidepressants. Thanks 'Girl, Interrupted'.

Lying is bad and one should never ever do it. But...

Maybe just tell your friends you were diagnosed. If you feel strongly that you are correct and they will treat you in a better, different way if they are convinced you have it.

If it makes your life better at no cost to anyone else, just tell the one lie.

But no lies after that!

I advise against tell your parents, it's rather pointless. They've spent your entire life in your presences they don't need a book to know who you are.

Not telling your parents until you're within sight of moving out might be a good idea, or the timing might not really matter. Telling them about Asperger Syndrome and asking them "You think I have it?" might be a good way to "out" yourself.