Obession frustrations...

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My obession is service dog training. I am 15 years old and I have always been training some dog, somwhere to do somthing. I am known as "the girl with the dog" and I guess I always will be. I don't always want to be a smelly dog girl, forever smelling like a dog. I am a socially akward aspie and I will most likely never have a boyfrind or a husband. I don't go anywhere other then chruch and school. I am one for 4 people in my class at school and I don't like the dudes at chruch. They all want the perfect family, complete with a soccer mom. If all I do my whole life is train dogs for people what good am I to the human race? Yet dog training is seemingly the only thing I care about. I don't want to live alone forever. And its not like I have friends either. I will just have dogs. I won't matter to anyone other then my family and they will probably all die. I wish I could change my obession to something important. Anyone else ever feel this way?

You may be getting into too big a hurry.

Plenty of men like women who are into dogs. A wife who likes to train dogs would be a big plus for many men instead of the wife they have who, at best, just puts up with their dogs and unwillingly at that.

Besides, a wife who is into dogs is a whole lot more affordable than a wife who is into horses.

You know what I think of this? I am a female with autism. I've never had a romantic relationship. I would rather die at a ripe old age still not having any romantic relationship at all, than to have a man that doesn't deserve me.

Somebody who deserves you will at least tolerate, if not downright celebrate, your special interest.

Dog training is a valuable skill, not to mention a widely sought after one. That is a good thing to be interested in. Lots of potential things you could do with it career wise. Service dogs, yes, tracking dogs, security dogs, etc. Many avenues. There is even plenty of demand out there for simple obedience training as well.

I say keep at it. And good luck to you.

Doing what you love doesn't have to be an isolating thing - just try to connect with other people who share your passion. It might be even easier if you manage to strike up a friendship with someone else is also on the autistic spectrum. Most of my closest friends in recent years have been other people on the spectrum (if only over the Internet).

But if it doesn't work, don't be disheartened - teenage years can be the hardest time to make good friends because most teenagers are very cliquey and adults tend to not take you seriously. I know from personal experience that making friends becomes much easier once you become an adult. Once you're in your twenties, older adults will take you more seriously and your peers will become more accepting of you.