I told somebody I think I'm an aspie

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I will never do that again. That's all he want to talk about, how i'm different.

I donno what to say. I`m dieing to talk to someone about it. I feel like I`m even more alienated than before I came out of denial. I would never tell family or someone who is on the edge of the spectrum but I`m gonna tell one of my buddies the weekend if I can get the chance.

Several of my friends know, and they do not act like it is a big deal (for which I appreciate), it also helps them when I misunderstand something.

My family also knows, and that has helped my relationship with most of them greatly. At first a large part of conversation was about how I am different or putting the past into perspective, but now it is just ordinary.

Finger, I cannot say if the person was being rude and condescending, or it might be that they are curious, but you might want to tell him that you would like to talk about topics other than your differences.

The first time I told someone about my daughter's dx it got pretty ugly, so I advised my daughter to keep her dx for herself and only tell people after knowing them really well to make sure they would not use that info to hurt her.

If it is a person in the curiosity stage, it will decrease with time. With some of my friends when they were in the curiosity stage after finding out I felt like I was a specimen under a microscope, but I understood that they were just trying to accept me as I am and to understand me better. There were no ill intentions but it was not comfortable.

My dad and brother questioned me and my diagnosis (in a disbelieving way) until I (with the help of the psych who diagnosed me) got a list of stuff that I do from AS, and went into some of the specifics of the neurological testing and the results. This was done because they "knew me" so of course I did not have a syndrome that they knew nothing about. This was resolved with educating them about what AS is.

If it is a rude person who is trying to criticize you, I am sorry. Mean people exist and it seems to be best to tell them blatantly that what they are doing is mean and not appreciated, and then to try to ignore them.

I would use it as an opportunity. Look at what you are being told is different about you and compare that to what you know about Asperger's. See if it matches. When I first started this process of self-discovery, I told people to tell me how I seemed to them and NOT to hold back. Even if it seemed hurtful, I wanted the data. What others told me, even those who disputed my suspicions, pointed to a pattern of behavior very indicative of someone who was autistic spectrum. It led to some arguments and to some people saying it was definitely true. In the end, I got my data and that was what was important.