i am so friggin AWKWARD!! !

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my b/f has recently initiated the kissing phase of our relationship. i want him to kiss me, i like..no, LOVE it when he kisses me,and yet,every single time he dose it it makes my skin CRAWL and i think "ewwwww".i JUST got used to the hugging(by everyone-that is, my friends-in general,not just him)and thats because they kept at it till it stopped freaking me out.i'm wondering if this has nothing to do with AS/HFA and is just immaturity on my part because he has AS(mind you he says i'm much worse than he is...yeah,right)and seems to have no trouble with this at all(though i am told he was nervous as to how i'd respond to the first one and was asking everyone how to do it).also, the "i love you"thing. it WEIRDS me out!! !!i can say it back and mean it,but it feels so awkward!and it takes me so long to respond that i'm worried that he may think i dont mean it...which i DO!! ! HELP!! !

How old are you?


And don't worry about it, even NTs don't always like being very affectionate and Aspies certainly don't.

Yeah it always feels kinda weird at first (moreso for ASDers because of the common problem with being touched) but you get used to it after a while.

Just try to hang in there and know it does get easier and more comfortable (though it will probably always be a "dont want to but also want to" kind of thing).

15.I like being affectionte.I'm very much so,it just feels WEIRD!*shudders*

Blackcat, WOW, even luckier than I thought! BOTH AS! Well, since he was so concerned, and has AS, just explain to him that you love it, but feel uncomfortable. If he is worth it, he WILL be disappointed, but understand and try to work it out. I guess you shouldn't take that bat out just yet. As for you being worse than he is, you may be the same over all, but it sounds like he IS a little bit more comfortable with you than you are with him. He probably didn't mean it as an insult.

Steve

Well don't worry. Tell your fella about the situation, make it clear its nothing to do with him its just the Aspie thing. If he's an Aspie too he should understand.

Just relax, its not a big deal.

I had a similar problem with a guy who I wasn't seeing but we would often make out and stuff.
Before we kissed for the first time it was always a very awkward situation for me whenever he went to kiss me.
Eventually though, we did kiss and then I just got more comfortable with him.
The only way to beat this situation unfortunately is to tackle it head on.
Good luck!

Gotta agree there.. practice makes perfect