do you feel embarrassment?

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I don't think I've ever felt embarrassed. I tend to feel fear or nothing at all in situations where most people would be embarrassed. I'll readily tell people personal details about myself, and even when I accidentally wet myself in the middle of my high school cafeteria, I felt shame and disgust and fear, but no embarrassment. (Apart from the fear, which is related to bullying, I'd have felt just as bad if there was no one else there to see it.)

Is it an autistic thing, to not feel embarrassment? What does embarrassment feel like?

I have felt intense embarassment. It's like you want to shoot yourself in the face because people around you don't concur or you yourself don't concur with what has been done. A strong, avoidant, panicky feeling. Because of the consequences. I have been very aware of the consequences, the mechanics, the logic, but I don't think I have actually cared about doing something unnaccepted.

I feel embarrassment all the time. In fact, feelings of embarrassment have become rather disabling for me, because I have a fear of embarrassment. I don't like being shown up. I get embarrassed very, very easily.

Embarrassment is not very nice, so you're not missing much. If I do something like slip on an icy pavement, I think that everybody saw and are all watching me, snickering at me, judging me, pointing at me and going, ''look at that stupid girl, she just slipped on the ice!'' And then I feel my face going as red as a tomato and I look down and not look at anyone, then try to get away as quick as I can. That's one example of embarrassment.

But there are different types of embarrassment. I'm OK with talking about AS on WP, but mentioning that I have AS to employers at job interviews really does make me go red, and I just get so embarrassed to mention it to them that it makes interviews very difficult, so I end up not telling them about it, although it feels awkward because I am not diagnosed for nothing.

Also I get embarrassed of things like asking people to do a favour for me, depending on what it is.

Yes--acutely.

I feel embarrassed most of the time, even though I have no reason to feel this way. I guess I have big issues with my self esteem.

im embarrassed of myself all the time

Yes but about different things. People assume I don't care or don't get embarrassed but I do. I just don't get embarrassed about the same things.

I am extremely self conscious but there are times (mods?) and situations where I simply don't care, or I am around people I trust implicitly. Sometimes I'll do something embarrassing myself and I just want to crawl under a rock and never come out again. When I was a teenager especially my social anxiety, fear of being embarrassed was completely debilitating, while I have managed to overcome enough of my self-conscious nature to be able to function fairly well I still encounter setbacks which are extremely difficult for me to overcome. However, I have a wife and kids because I persisted asking girls out until I met my wife, and I got so excited about her that I asked her to marry me less than a month after we met, her reaction to this was to dump me. She felt bad about being so harsh with me and she called me back about a month later, that was back in 1992 and we are still very happily married, just remember that fortune favors the bold. I can guarantee you that no one here has worse social anxiety then I do but I am so glad that I chose to do things like going to dances and asking girls out in spite of my anxieties and the embarrassment I feel pretty much continuously about everything I do.

Absolutely, when I was younger my face would get so red and then I'd get made fun of, which would only make it worse.
No I still get a little red, but the worse is playing the situation over and over again in my head.
And given we pick up on tiny details, the replay has all the sick feeling of the original cause

yes

Chronic embarrassment - especially when it catches up with me retrospectively and I make realizations too late.

I feel embarrassment a lot, mostly over what other people think about my special interests. I have some special interests right now with currently popular toys that I'm nervous about other people knowing about because they may say something negative or nasty, like My Little Pony and Monster High. One time a lady saw me about to buy a couple of MH dolls at Wal-Mart and loudly exclaimed how ugly they were several times. I don't know if it's more acceptable for me to like MLP because I'm female. At least I can't be labeled a "brony" because that's a combination of "brother" and "pony", but I've heard the term "pegasister". I've even made Monster High and Pony characters on the Sims 3 with the help of the Supernatural and Pets expansion packs. Just last night I made human versions of Twilight Sparkle and Spike after watching a video on YouTube of artwork the Ponies as humans. I made the other characters like real horses but I needed human Sims to take care of them. I even made a Sim horse of Derpy and even gave her googly eyes! But... if people said anything nasty about them I think my head would burst into flames. I feel a little safer on the internet since I can hide my identity but when I upload videos to YouTube I disable ratings and comments because people are just too cruel.

Almost never.

Not only do I feel severe embarrassment, I constantly relive it for days, then I flash back to it years later and physically cringe. This happens with things I experienced in elementary school sometimes.