OCD vs Sensory Issues

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Ok, it's probably not OCD, but I need all drawers and cabinet doors closed when not in use. It annoys me to no end when these are left open, even if barely. I assume this was normal behavior as why on earth would someone leave these open? It baffles me. Although, I noticed other people do this.

Anyway, my husband does this, and has even started doing this with the pantry door. At first I thought he was just getting distracted and forgetful. Then I started thinking he was doing this just to piss me off. But he claims its the noise, he doesn't like the noise it makes. What's interesting is the fact that we are the second owners of this house, and every single drawer and cabinet in every room came with little felt stickers, which actually minimizes the impact when closed, thus quieter.

Is there anything anyone can suggest that will make our lives easier? Well, other than living in separate houses. I mean, he has no problem flushing the toilet, and even closing the lid, and they both make louder noise.

why don't you just shut the drawers and cabinets yourself? if your husband is generally respectful of your wants and needs, be the bigger person and let this go.

Try taking the little felt stickers off. May be making a noise that is unpleasent to your husband.

Go to a hardware shop and buy silicon spray, or even ask for assistance there. They could help with the door making a strange noise.

Silicone spray - it's the closing clap sound that bothers him, not the creaking. Very few of our doors make that creaking noise

Felt sticker removal - it's the loudness of the noise that bothers him. Removing the stickers would just make it louder. Again, he seems to have no problem closing the lid on the toilet, and that's much louder.

Shutting the doors/drawers myself - there lies the problem. I can't cater do all his issues, because there are things that bother me too, and he doesn't seem to want to accommodate for them. He can't stand lotion, so I have to lotion our baby, even put on baby oil, which never seems to want to come off my own skin, which is the reason he's so opposed to it. It creeps me out too, but I guess not as much as it does for him. He's always hot, so I always have to wear a jacket, even when it's 115 degrees out. I even leave light switches in his specific desired position. He should do something. The problem with my drawer/door issue is that it conflicts with his sound issue, so I don't really know how he can accommodate for me in this situation, without it attacking him.

I feel that if he would just get used to it, it won't bother him so much. I used to need to have all the doors in the house closed, but learned to live with having several open simply because I grew tired of opening them for the cats. But it's this very reason why he needs to keep them closed. The cats will get into out pots and pans and everything. It's actually why he's able to close the toilet seat. We don't want the cats drinking out of it.

Is there like a hinge I could install that autocloses for him? So that when he leaves it open, it slowly closes back? Not sure how that will help the drawer issue though.

if there are a lot of issues where you feel you don't get the good end of the stick and the relationship is very unequal, couples counseling might be an okay step.

there are door hinges that automatically close.

I will see if I can find these door hinges. Tonight he emptied the dishwasher, (something he rarely does since that's my chore) and I noticed that every single door and drawer was closed. He left the pantry door a crack open though when he was cooking, but at least we're getting somewhere.