Did you develop conformity later?

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I have not felt it until recently.

Since then I have tried forcing myself to like My Little Pony (after 1 1/2 episodes it just felt emasculating) and Death (for band purposes rather than actual enjoyment of the music.)

Is it possible we develop feelings of conformity later than normal folk?

It's the opposite with me. I used to always conform, thinking that it was the right thing to do since, to this day, I'm highly moralistic. But as I grew, I ended up having my own mind, developing my own world view, and being pretty antisocial (the one quality about myself that I truly hate).

Is it possible that we conform later on as people with ASDs? If there's some kind of correlation, I doubt it's not on a case-by-case basis.

Part of the reason why the APA probably took away the different diagnoses from being individually different from classic Autism is because Autism is a spectrum disorder, one where even if you already fit most of the criteria with one disorder, you can still be diagnosed with another, so it's complicated for psychologists and psychiatrists to diagnose us. I know, I'm currently both PDD and an Aspie, thought it was the same thing. o_o

But because of the diversity in symptoms and occurrence, many of the generalizations that people often put on those in the spectrum are often, and definitely in many cases, misconceptions. And so it's no surprise if a lot of the correlations that people associate with Autism doesn't always happen, and I guess that's where the beauty in it lies right?

Oops, I got all philosophy-ee on you. Basically, it, of course, depends on the person. But there is a correlation to other factors and conformity, such as age, political ideology, etc.... that may concern you in the future even more. Possibly, getting older and changing a political ideology, or finding satisfaction in friendships, relationships, different people you hang out with, and a host of other things can and have possibly changed your mindset on conformity.

I conformed well as a child. In 1999, all the kids at school were all into Pokemon. That wasn't my thing, but I forced myself to like it just to fit in, and I then became as fanatic over it as the other kids did. I collected Pokemon cards so I could swap them with other kids at school (because that was what they were all doing), and I collected all the stuffed characters.

It happened the same when every kid at school brought in a yoyo, and then when the tamigochi's came in, and then when the beenie babies came in. I just got swallowed up into the craze and forced myself to like it.

Now I find I can't conform that easily any more. I do a little, just enough to not look different, but I don't let myself get swallowed up in anything I don't want to.

I as the one that got others interested in Yu-Gi-Oh/Pokemon, not vice versa.

I try to conform in the way i dress as it tends to lead to people treating you better, but as far as my interests go they are no one elses but my own. Im not going to pretend to like a band or a TV show or whatever just so I can say i do. The only time ive ever done something like that is when i tried to get into football (soccer) just so that i could have something to talk to other guys about (most guys tend to fall back on football when all other topics of conversation have dried up). I just couldnt keep myself interested though.

I don't think I'd want to pretend to like things I don't like just to fit in....either I would fail at the conformity, or maybe I'd get called out as a fake, which is exactly what I would be if I was putting on such an act. Conformity for the sake of conformity does not seem like a very good use of time and energy.

widtreeman, I remember when people would ask if I wanted to trade Yu Gi Oh cards...never could trust people to see my collection unless I invited them over (which was about 3 people total)

I don't exactly conform...

ok scratch that, I'm a vegetarian buddhist who lives in arkansas and I'm seeing a therapist about getting a sex change. I don't conform period.

I'm still less obviously weird now than I was as a kid, though.

I can recall having some ridiculous anti-conformist thoughts as a child. I thought people only listened to music because others did (I didn't get into music until I was 13) and only liked teletubbies (and later on pokémon) because it was popular and I somehow looked down on them for those things A little later on then I had that unpleasant friend and then I had to conform to her wishes when I was around her because I was afraid of her. But I never thought it was a good thing, I hated myself for it.
That being said, I loathe anti-confomism and am not like that anymore.
I suppose something I do that is similar to conformism is my withholding of some things I like because I'm afraid of people? I don't get it but I'm terrified of people judging me and being angry at me. If I witness seemingly intelligent people criticize something I like I will somehow forever consider it something I should be ashamed of (even if the criticism is somewhat benign or even something I agree with, it still feels as though they're angry at me) and yet another reason to add to my ever-growing pile of reasons I'm the scum of the earth.
I hate this about myself and wish I could be rid of it, but (perhaps unsuprisingly) none of the most flawed parts of myself listen to reason.
But no, I've never considered conformity something positive worthy of pursuing.

Are you kidding me? I only get worse as I get older...as an artist I am totally a legitimised non-conformist...however for the auditory sensory overload it is getting worse as one gets older, I fear, like you can stand heat less, or cold, but also noise. Yet I can tolerate my own noise (music)....