so what is love all about

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I'm getting so much resistance when it comes to falling in love. I wish people could just read my mind because there is nothing I know how to say that doesn't come across as stupid. I wish I could make myself beam into her head. I know that is rediculous. nobody gets me

hiya Ludlow welcome to our cool club
love doesn't have to be about words or body language even, it is about ACTIONS. it is about loyalty. it is about being with your special person even when you don't feel like it. but it also has to be about the other person feeling the same way about you. that is the tough part. if that other person prefers to be with you over all others, even when she doesn't feel well, that is a good sign.

You don't have to be verbally eloquent, you can write romantic love notes or poems. Most Aspies feel more able to put things down in text than speaking. Don't worry about people getting you too much. Be yourself, show you are genuine and sincere, and take her on nice dates and make her feel special. Just try to remember not to 'talk at' her if you have a tendency to do that, ask her something about her job or her interests. It will happen if you don't give up trying.

Last edited by whirlingmind on 21 Dec 2012, 11:21 am, edited 1 time in total.

In my experience, Love can't be explained rationally, it's just there. And honestly if you can explain love, then it's not really love, but rather affection.

Don't worry about it! Love makes even the most smooth-talking NTs stutter and say stupid things. If you like somebody, tell them. They might like you back. And if not, at least you'll know for sure.

To make one person the center of your world is bound to end in disaster. There are too many factors outside your control. What do you do when the one person you want comfort from the most is the one who caused your pain? How can you want so desperately for her to wrap you up in her arms but also want so much for her to leave you the *&^%$#@ alone? The loss of a loved one is like the loss of a part of oneself; an arm or a leg. At first, the pain is so physical that it is hard to ignore. The trauma is so intense that the mind finds it hard to cope with the loss. With time the pain eases, the body recovers and the brain figures out new ways to go on. It's almost like the words "I do" actually mean, "Hey, I'm about to screw you over, big time!"

-- Various quotes on love.

Well Foreigner could never figure out what love is --

I think Tina Turner asked what love has to do with it


Haddaway asked what love is, and then asked people not to hurt him


But Merriam Webster clearly defines love as (1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties.

So that might be it.

My point of view is but then no one takes me seriously

Anyways i was saying that Aspie's are lonely, isolated and they seek company

They are confused with companionship and love

And in some cases like mine due to childhood abuse and lack of emotional proximity with parents

I got confused between physical love and emotional love

Everytime i asked a guy to love the person that i am they were only interested in sex

Very soon i realised that one can live without love only that you may feel a deep void in your life.

Wow. I never looked at it that way. It makes me feel lucky to be asexual, because for me love and sex just aren't connected at all. It sounds really confusing to learn how to tell the difference.

Love is a mystery to me.

Love is showing someone exactly where all the chinks in your armour are. Then handing them a sword.

... while holding a charged plasma cannon behind your back.