Aspie Traits in Parents?

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I'm a diagnosed aspie, and for the longest time, I have noticed some aspie-like traits in my father, even though he doesn't actually have a PDD. He seems to have trouble understanding people on occasion, and they have trouble understanding him. His gotten in trouble for not being very likeable at work, and also seems to have no idea what's going on a lot of the time, remembering a more generic version of events than what actually occurred because he's not paying attention to anything around him. Sometimes, Mom will ask him to come to supper when he's playing his piano or on his computer, and he'll be completely unresponsive. It was enough to prompt him to see a psychiatrist, but the man said he didn't have any form of autism.

I'm wondering if these minor traits I'm noticing may have something to do with the cause of my disorder, assuming they are anything unusual to begin with. Has anyone noticed this sort of thing in either of their parents?

My mom has a lot of autistic traits, but she also has severe OCD and I suspect that is what we're seeing. She avoids people (but it is due to a fear of germs and bugs). She has non-functional routines she must complete (but these focus on ensuring the cleanliness of her environment due to possible contaminants). She will talk at great length about things that no one else has any interest in, despite being told on a number of occasions that people aren't interested - at least for the length of time and to the degree she goes over them (sometimes more than twenty times in the very same conversation). Again, probably part of the OCD. There's quite a bit of overlap if my understanding is correct.

My Father has a few AS traits but he is not diagnosed and has never tried to get a diagnosis...he doesn't even know what AS is!

He has traits such as...

*Monotoneous voice
*Prefers solitude over company
*Is overwhelmed in noisey places such as the city and prefers quiet places
*Doesn't engage in small talk

Although my Father does not live with me...when I have seen him before he showed these traits. My grandmother thinks that he has AS.

My mother doesn't have any AS traits.

My dad hasn't been diagnoised but he does have some AS traits such as routine, small talk n prefers to be on his own.

My Dad used to have some traits which were should I say very aspie like.

He had an obsession with cars, he use to get angry at random times, when he was a boy at school he use to go around and mark everyones maths work and give everyone else the right answer.

My funny mom is definitely an Aspie.

When I questioned my mother about my childhood, she agreed that she too sounds very AS-like.

Key factors for her were the:

Meltdowns
Talking about things that no one else cares to hear
Lack of boundaries and absolutely no censorship
Avoids social
Gets overwhelmed when out, overheated, angry, frustrated
Fallen victim to manipulative, abusive people (about a million times)
Family abandoned her for lack of understanding...

She was willing to admit it all sounded characteristic of her, even tried to say that it was just a part of "being us", but accepted the fact that I was going for the assessment without too much fuss and told me not to expect her to go (which I would never...she is so old-school like that) and agreed to have my very aspie like 14 yr. old brother assessed if I got a dx...

Yet another sad reality of having a crap Dr. assess me....*sigh*

My parents are pretty much the opposite of AS. My great uncle and grandpa(they would be brother-in-laws) on my fathers side show alot of traits though. Grandpa is more OCD, who has a very strict routine and gets pretty angry if you upset it. My uncle has the routines, the obsessions(don't ever get into the keilation or whatever it is), and he lives by himself in a motor home between Arizona and Milwaukee.

My parents are normal, but I suspect that my Grandfather is an aspie.

Sometimes when I watch my mum around people she knows I notice that she's almost as awkward as I am, and she says that she used to have the same feeling of being a different species to everyone else that I get. She is also a little bit OCD.

My dad is a solitary creature who enjoys things like walking along a beach looking at every single rock.

Neither of them would be able to get a diagnosis, but it's certainly not hard to see where I came from.

My dad has some traits (at least my mom says)
My aunt and my dad's mother are pretty much full blown AS.

I'm the only one with a diagnosis in my family, but I'm pretty certain that my mom is on-spectrum as well. We have so many traits in common that I sometimes feel like I'm her clone (socially awkward, difficulty with voice intonation/modulation, weird gait, trouble understanding context and nuance, sensory issues, lack of friends, etc.). Plus, she was nonverbal until she was nearly 5 and my grandparents thought she was mentally ret*d, until she started speaking in full sentences one day. The doctor just chalked it up to "bad mothering" and that was that.

Kamex,

Look CAREFULLY at the DSM. PDD does mean pervasive development disorder, but your father's problem IS pervasive, and probably is old. He may have a PDD! Anyway, he does show some aspie traits. If he doesn't want to accept it, or get checked out, oh well. If he is happy, and doing fine, GREAT! You STILL may find him more understanding though.

BTW if I take my fathers friends words, and his family(parents, etc...)(Considered very smart, excelling in math, great memory, a few strong interests, arrogant/blunt, invited to mensa, not caring for his appearance etc...), and the fact that he married late(about his mid 30s, and I have noticed the average is early to mid 20s), and divorced, and his attitude, I guess he does have aspie traits. I just hesitate to admit it, because I want to get more like I was, and not like he is.

I see alot of the anti social tendencies in my mom. She also gets very stressed if you upset her little routine. I often laugh when talking to her and say...gee, mom, where do you think me and my son get our tendencies. She laughs now too. She gets it finally. My son is diagnosed. I am not. But I see alot of the things that helped cement his diagnosis in myself. He is the way he is because of the way that I am. Weird begets weird.

I have a first cousin who has a lot of autisticness. I have two cousins with children on the spectrum. Think it runs rampant in my neck of the woods?