So depressed and isolated

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Hi everyone,

I'm 18 and have actually been diagnosed with High functioning autism, which I do think is incorrect as I didn't have any developmental delays when I was a kid, when I was in school I was told I had Asperger's, so anyway.

I've never had a friend that hasn't used me or wanted something from me. For the last year, I haven't had any friends at all. I only have my parents to speak to, but I live on my own as my relationship is a bit iffy with them. I've had physical relationships with people, or one night stands, but never had a boyfriend.

People always pick on me (even complete strangers) and call me weird or just totally ignore me. I'm sick of feeling this depressed. I'm not good at anything either apart from spelling and local geography and history.

I have no idea what to do any more. I used to cut myself but that doesn't even bother me anymore. I've tried internet dating but I can't hold a conversation.

Any advice or should I give up and just accept I'll be lonely forever?

I'm gonna be lonely forever. I haven't really accepted it. but at my age, it makes no difference. I do think younger people should give dating a chance. You just never know. You may not meet Mr. Right, but Mr. Will Do For Now is better than nothing.

Very true. Somebody is better than nobody. I guess I better give Brad Pitt a call back. Haha.

Don't give up. Constant practice and continuing to revisit what you failed at before may not sort out your entire life for you, but they will help you nevertheless. I think people are always saying "eventually, you will meet someone who accepts you", and I think that's true as long as you recognise them when they appear, they might not be perfect but they are assured to be better than all of the people who pick on you and put you down.

Hi, I'm similar to you. I feel depressed and isolated, and having many NTs around me just makes me feel even more isolated. I see my own family around me being more able to socialise properly and hold a conversation with strangers or people they barely know, and it just makes me feel so crap.

I don't have many friends. I have 2 of my age, but they aren't NTs (but are normal high-functioning people otherwise), and I have a few other friends who are a lot older than me, old enough to be my mum. I have had men asking me out but they're not my type, and the men I do like are a lot older than me and/or are married, so I can't have them. I live with my parents because I feel I'm not ready to cope with the big change of moving out at the moment, hopefully I might change my mind in the future, there is no rush to move out yet and I don't fancy living completely on my own, since I am sensitive to loneliness. My cousins are all NTs and all seem too good for me so they don't really see me any more, they're only interested in people who like going out and drinking, which I hate doing.
Don't worry, you are not alone.


I get picked on a lot in public. I can list down all the times I have been mocked in the street by random strangers, and these are definately times when I know I wasn't doing anything weird or enough to even be noticed, since I know I wear clothes that make me blend in with the rest and I always go out looking presentable, well groomed, and just acting normal. So I don't see what some people's problem is there. One day I know I'm going to crack, and ask what their problem is, and hopefully that'd humiliate them back.


I can spell well too, but I'm not good at anything else, even what you said. All I'm good at is writing stories about my special interest - which is bus-drivers. Not a very logical thing to be obsessed with, but there. I wish I was good at a bit more. OK, I might be good at playing the piano, with one hand, but....yeh.


I've tried internet dating too, but I couldn't get on with it. I don't even know what I had to do on it really . Men wanted more pictures of me but I am absolutely crap at taking photos of myself and I didn't want to send them goofy pictures of myself, which they do come out like when I smile in pictures. Also I didn't know who these people were, they could be talking to 10 different girls for all I knew, so I just quit.


Well, like they always say, you never know what's around the corner. Even if there doesn't seem to be any hope, you still never know what lurks around the corner. You and your parents could be millionnairres tomorrow. But I don't mean you need to wait for something like that to happen, I'm just saying you don't know what life holds for you in the future. I used to hate a woman who I knew of, and I showed it for about a year. Now we're the best of friends and we also get on so well. I have a feeling she might be a possible Aspie, but I see she is so good at chatting to people and she is so friendly to strangers so I have my doubts. But she could have something else that makes her socially awkward in other ways. But anyway, so yes, I do hate cliche advice but saying ''you never know what lurks around the corner'' is quite a good cliche to think of because it is really true. I know I don't take my own advice, but I should.

Anyway, just see what happens in the future. You're only 18, you've got plenty of time to meet different people. I know that sounds boring advice, but if I could wave a magic wand, I would.

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Joe90: I sent you a message by PM and a message in your "Haven" thread and you ignored them both. Why?

It's nice to know someone feels the same way. I drink too much actually. I get bored so sometimes I just drink so I don't remember what I was feeling. I know I'm young, but I don't feel young. Time just drags, all the life I remember has been a drag. I don't have a reason to get up anymore. It's just so depressing. Someone random threw chips on me the other day, I have no idea why. I look at everyone being able to chat well in conversation and I only know about certain topics. Why would I want to gossip about Rita Ora or whatever her name is?!

I know about the older guys, I always try and go for older. But my issue is, the guy I got on most with was 35 and there's no way I could explain that one to my dad!

Tequila: A bit off topic there.

Who?


I go for older men too. They seem to have lower standards. Lads of my age all seem to have a girlfriend who is dressed in clothes that aren't me, cakes loads of make-up on, and has their hair really immaculate, and I know I am presentable enough, I'm still not good enough for people of my age, which is why I get so annoyed when people keep saying, ''fancy someone your own age!'' I feel like saying, ''yeah, maybe if someone my own age fancied me back, matey!'' And yes, older men do take the time to fancy me back, or even if they don't, they at least know how to flirt without coming out with some sort of stupid joke what would sound offensive if someone took it literally. I see a lot of young men flirting like that and it annoys me. I'd rather having a nice wink from a bloke in his 50s, and being called ''love'', instead of ''babe''. BABE! Yuk!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!

OK I've gone off-topic aswell.

i've always wondered what it would be like dating an aspie girl. I'm 30 and from NJ. I've dated before but every relationship lacked some sort of primal understanding and connection... but then again they say there's a lot more male aspies than there are female.. so i'll never know..

Try to remember that Autism or Asperger's isn't just one specific condition - it's a vast spectrum.

Every case is unique. What is more, every case is also affected by its specific circumstances (cultural background, upbringing, education, life experiences, etc.). Therefore, not fitting into a diagnosis perfectly is to be expected.

So relax and try to discover your strengths. You'll need them to overcome your weaknesses.