Too Many Feelings You Can't Control or Express

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I know everyone seems to think Aspies have blunted emotions, but I feel the exact opposite! I get so, so overwhelmed by all of the things I feel, but I don't know how to express them to other people. I feel like everything comes out wrong or vague and the true depth of my emotions can never be properly relayed. I sometimes have fights with my close friends or throw tantrums (despite the fact that I am 33 years old). It's childish, isn't it?

What is everyon else's experience with this?

I am similar in some ways, but I rarely get in fights and I never have tantrums. It's so much worse when I cannot accurately express my thoughts and feelings to others. Most people do not seem to understand, they don't take me seriously, don't care, and I feel like nobody will ever know what's really going on with me.

I, too, am similar. My emotions are soo strong and they overwhelm me easily. I'm trying to learn to look at my emotions objectively with my psychiatrist, and make a list of things to do when I'm experiencing a certain emotion. Problem is that the emotions come soo fast and are so overwhelming that it takes a while for me to be able to look at the list.

I find I express my feelings TOO MUCH to people, especially close relatives like my mum.

I know quite a lot of diagnosed people who also agree that we feel too much emotion. I have always said, my problem is not a 'lack of' emotion, but more that I struggle to say 'this is a sad feeling' or 'this is a happy feeling'. That's simplifying it a bit (happy sad and angry are all I can actually recognise!) but that's how I explain it. I often feel strong emotions but I am unable to put a name to it. I have been told that this makes me 'frustrated' (when other people say I am frustrated I either say angry or sad!). The more unknown emotions start going round and round in my head, I end up getting what I call 'swirly feeling'. It feels like I am feeling millions of emotions and it's like they have all been thrown into the washing machine that is my brain and are rotating round and round until I end up having a meltdown! Don't be embarrassed about your 'tantrums' I would highly suspect that your 'tantrums' are actually meltdowns.

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I can't recognize a certain emotion that I'm feeling most of the times. I often feel only the physical reaction that it causes, but I can't link it to an emotion. I often must ask people, usually my mother. For example, if I feel a pain in my stomach, and my heart starts beating faster, I must ask my mother what emotion causes those physical reactions. In this case, she usually aswers that it's anxiety. The only overwelming emotions I experience in my life are anger and happiness, that I learned to recognize because I experience them quite often, and by now I know the physical reactions they cause.

I can't express what my emotions are and put a name on them. I feel my emotions come at once but might not feel them just sometimes as if all the power comes at once.

this idea of us having blunted emotions comes from external observers.

i also have quite strong emotions, which i cannot express properly, therefor i appear to have little to no emotions, which is where the stereotype comes from

Well, normally I seem pretty phlegmatic. But on the inside, wow, I'm too emotional for my own liking. A lot of things makes me want to cry, a criticism, an argument, pretty much every little uncomfortable experience. I'm always so worried whether I've handled a social interaction in a non weird way, anything where I have to go to talk to people or fill out forms makes me sick. I HATE filling out forms and talking to people who handle them. Generally, I'd describe my perfect mood as melancholic.

Well of course i have emotions. im just not very fond of them to be honest, when you dont understand them, it can easily overwhelm you.

Its like today actually i was out shopping, then there was something my mom would like from the store but they didn have it, some electric feet massage varmer thing.

Okay that sucked. then i decide to go an get it in another place 5 miles away give or take, in this snow storm that we have today, sure it was a challenge but i made it.

Then she starts getting all oh thank you thank you, you didn have to do that and wants to hug and everything, i really dont get that, nor do i like it. I dont even expect or want to be thanked. i just want to help and that was that.

Emotions are really wierd, especially when people wanna hug, kiss you or what no. that can throw me totally off. 1 meter around me thats my personal space and i hate to have it invaded.