Anoying aspies and NTs are driving me crazy!

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Today while hanging out with my two step sisters (who are both around my age) I realized that most of the people I talk to are 2 things. One, males and two, losers! These creepy dudes talk to me and ask for my number and want to be friends and I have a hard time saying no. I don't want to hurt their feelings. Now as a result I have about 7 loser guys who won't leave me alone! I can't stand them. 2 of them just wanna get high and make it legal. The other 5 are just plain stupid and nothing more. These dudes have no friends, no life, no hopes, dreams or goals. Just kinda lazy and anoying. It all starts out the same every time. They are all lonely and seemingly nice so I want to be their friend. Then they end up wanting to be my boyfriend, I say no and they are crushed. We remain "close friends" and they are anoying as ever. I go to school with these people and have to see them no matter what. a lot of them are aspies too. The lazy anoying kind of aspies. I hate people!! !! How do I get rid of them, without hurting their feelings?

If you have to see them no matter what, it's going to be hard to get rid of them. If you tell them what you really think, they might go away. You can't change how others behave.

Feelings get hurt in an honest world. There's no avoiding that, and stringing them along only increases the suffering they'll eventually go through. Some men won't want to take no for an answer, but the kindest thing is still to say "no."

That's scary, they sound like they could be dangerous. I read that people with anxiety disorders have a hard time saying "no". That's one anxiety symptom I don't seem to suffer from, in fact I probably say no too much. But most guys don't seem attracted to me to begin with. There was this one guy I knew who was, however, and since I'm not used to that kind of attention from a man, I actually kind of liked it. But I was worried he'd get too creepy and dangerous and I knew he had mental problems. Most people I know in the city I live in do. In fact, I think he killed himself not too long ago...

But I digress yet again. You shouldn't be too concerned about hurting someone else's feelings, especially if they seem really creepy or want you to do something you really don't like. Yeah that sounds preachy, but it's true.

if you actually got 7 guys after you and arent narcissistic it's likely your leading them on without knowing it. Big things are don't act to familiar something super hard for an aspie to do, and the other is don't allow them to do things that are gonna make them think they got a chance.

I had a friend that was very much like you when i was younger.

She dated two of my friends, was hit on by my guitar teacher, me and another friend had a crush on her etc.

Worst of all I was the only aspie around, and fell for her super hard.

She's the one that I first started talking about ocd, sad, and asd with.

Probably the only girl that I ever held any true interest for, never got over her really, it's been 8 years and I still feel like she's the only chick I could marry.

Ironically the only way I got over her was the thought that if we had kids they'd probably be autistic.

Now that I've started thinking about dating autie girls the feeling is back.

It sounds like they're hurting your feelings by annoying you, so if I were you I wouldn't worry about hurting theirs. Just tell them that you need your space!

Well clearly you should just tell them how they are all losers that you hate and only hang out with because you pitied them or something. Ok maybe that would hurt their feelings, but at least they wouldn't have to spend any more time around someone who can't stand them but pretends to.

Now if they are doing anything abusive or manipulative to you then yes I agree that is creepy and the best option is to cut those sorts of people out of your life. But from your OP it sounds like maybe you shouldn't judge people so harsly otherwise don't make friends with people who don't live up to your standards of what a non-loser or whatever is.

Oh by the way, you can hurt people more as they grow closer to you. A fast initial rejection will do far less damage than playing along for a year before deciding to tell them you don't like them. It saves you the headache of the intervening year, too.