If anyone has watched the film from UCLA PEERS with Alex Plank:
There's good advice here BUT a lot depends on what circle you wish to join in on. As a young female (who was once attractive), it didn't matter how much finesse I had. Women were horrible to me. They saw me as competition. They were rude and nitpicked. I had many more males as friends. Again, your race DOES matter also. You may go around thinking that you are a waste and can't cut in the social world when the truth is simply that people were merely racist to you. People don't go around admitting they're racist - it's subtle. Many factors have to be taken into consideration before you blame your aspergers. I overheard a conversation about me when I was going to nursing school. A queen bee was asked why she didn't like me and was so mean to me. This other person found me rather sweet and engaging. The queen bee said that I was just "too dark". She remarked on the size of my lips as well. No mention to my social schools or knowledge of the course work at all. I am bi-racial by the way. So, sometimes it could be you and sometimes it isn't. Follow the steps, do your best, BUT be aware that it isn't ALWAYS your fault. The NT world isn't perfect. If you go around thinking that you are a slave to all or a reject...think again. Many NT's need could benefit from training courses on manners and ethnic/racial tolerance. Just because they know how to "get in tight" with other people, doesn't make them good people.
18 Dec 2012, 8:59 am
