nonames wrote:
Perhaps not with something so simple as sitting.
But with bigger stuff like relationships and stuff. Yeah. I can't read between the lines when you want me to and I try to read between the lines when there's nothing between them. If people would just tell me what they actually thought and wanted out of me it would be better.
yes, not with little stuff. with little stuff, i think that people have to be secure enough to not feel challenged by someone who does not conform to social norms.
i recently sat in the 'direct care worker' section at an all-staff meeting, rather than on the administration side. my unit director came up to me before the meeting and stated 'sitting in the rough part of town huh?' about halfway through the meeting, i realized that he was requesting for me to sit where i was 'supposed to sit,' though not directly saying it. as time goes on, i must admit, he is warming up to my responses as being 'different' rather than defiant, so its all working out.
that said, i would like to be treated as someone who responds in an authentic and well-meaning way, rather than have people read 'human instinct' into every little thing.