Annoyed Easily ( Over Stimulated)

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I was wondering is it normal for a Aspie to get annoyed, overstimulated, or frustrated with everything after a while? I don't consider myself a ''weak person'' but everything ''adds up'' after a while, such as my aunt stressing me out and feeling I have no privacy, other people, going out, small amount of work hours, frustrated today with one bank because it was ran very unprofessional, trying to get my life together and live a ''certain way'' and even right now my aunt is next to me, talking with her kids or granddaughters who can't be alone for 2 minutes. I was concerned do I have other mental health issues? my aunt seems to enjoy all of that stuff, up each others a** ever second

Pretty much any and everything can be overstimulating for me. Radio. TVs. Lights. Sunshine. People. Sound effects. Anything that crinkles. Textures. Smells - even good ones like food.

I am very easily annoyed when anything bothers me. I have misophonia which means I can launch into a rage from sound but also from visual stimuli. I can't be around people very often at all, even if we don't interact. People like your aunt would make me enraged.

I stay home in my very controlled environment but even then things can send me over the edge.

Absolutely normal for us! I get frustrated "easily" at work, or at least it appears that way to people who don't experience the world the same way I do. Some days I'm even in an actual rage with physical signs like shaking and high blood pressure.... I'm just decent at hiding it.

Some days I very seriously want to slap customers or tell them to f**k off if nothing else. But my triggers usually aren't their fault, so I also feel bad about feeling that way.

Many days as a cashier the sound of people crinkling paper or even plastic bags sets me off. I can't lash out without consequences, so I start stimming very obviously to try to get through it. (Tapping the register in a rhythm, or bouncing my leg very fast, etc)

I don't think it happens to me a lot, but then I'm lucky enough to have quite a bit of control over my environment, so the things that would set me off are usually kept more or less at bay. I know what bothers me and I avoid it mostly. I wouldn't say I was comfortable exactly, but things aren't too bad. And I can usually cope with short spells of horrible stuff if I've chosen to go through that for what I feel is a good reason, as long as I know it'll be over soon.

But I do notice that if I've got nothing to do or to focus on, my sensory issues affect me a lot more, so I've come to view hyperfocus as a good protection against these things. To me it's like riding fast on a motorbike on an oppressively hot day - the moment I have to stop, the heat really starts to get to me. It neatly explains why I never stop thinking hard, and it explains my apparently low boredom threshold and my intolerance towards being kept hanging about. But if the sensory issues are too intense, they shatter my ability to think. Riding a motorbike is no help at all on the surface of the Sun.

It happens to me frequently--more when I'm tired, sick, or already unhappy.

sensory processing troubles can give us all sorts of "overload" in situations that others handle with ease. If possible , sort your worst "triggers" - the things that upset you the most and figure out how to avoid those situations, give yourself respite or "time outs" plan ways to escape the moment you feel upset, etc. You already mention family being in your face/ in your space. Is there a way to give yourself a quiet place/ time when you get feeling overwhelmed? We might need more breaks and space or time to accomplish things neurotypical folks do with ease. It all depends on what our worst struggles are and if we can figure out plans or ways to work around those struggles. It might take a change of schedule, location, or other adjustments , but careful sorting and thinking through the worst triggers/ hardest struggles and thinking of ways to avoid putting yourself in those circumstances can help with every day living. Start with the worst struggles first and deal with them one at a time. After 4 years of working at it, life has become less stressful for me, one little step or adjustment at a time can add up to better self care and more peace over time.