Some random internet denizen's careful, thought out analysis

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From this thread: (to avoid a threadjack): http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt220311.html

Aspergers isn't actually a disorder, is it? It's a syndrome; a characteristic combination of thoughts and behaviors that consistently occur together. As such, I thought it's not really something to be "cured" per se, but to be adapted to. I am by no means an expert on the subject; I am quite new to this community, and in fact this is my first post. But if that condition is true, then this board might serve more as a place for people to come and chat and share their stories and quirks, not to get better.

There are some valid points made, however. I think the sort of aspie/autie superiority complex that is sometimes displayed here and elsewhere is a bit silly. We're all humans, and we're all a little different. Not all NTs can be generalized, just as not all aspies can be generalized.

Can't we all just get along?

My thoughts? To summarize the long post I see "why can't you freaks just get over it and be normal?"

*sigh* Where do I begin?
I'll just write down what comes to my mind and might add some things in a second post later, because I'm pretty sure I forgot something.


First, I don't think this site is any cult but more of a site for exchange of people who are alike and for NTs to learn to understand how people with an ASD roll.
Most of us have always felt like outsiders and feel like outsiders for their entire life, were bullied, beaten and some still are in this vicious circle, etc., we were always the weird people among the normal people. Why can't we just feel normal on this forum for a change by being around people who are just the same and boost our self confidence a bit? What is so wrong about that?

Second, the person clearly wrote this in rage (I spotted typos that often seem to come to exist, because the person wrote this in a rush, which is usually typical when someone is raging), so I am not sure how serious I am supposed to take this post.
People tend to become quite emotional after all and do/say things which they didn't mean or regret afterwards.

Third, the person who wrote this post didn't seem to try seeing it from the perspective of the mother hoping the child would have AS.
At least for most of us it is usually easier to understand and to identify with people who are alike (I have a hard time understanding NTs and it is easier for me to see the world through a perspective that is like mine). That mother (not to mention the family at all) will probably be able to give better advice to the child if it has AS than if it is NT, so I definitely understand why she would want the child to have AS. Imagine the child asks you a question about socialisation which you simply cannot answer, what now? There is no other NT parent in the family who could give that kind of advice.
From personal experience and from experience from other family members, if the child has AS, there is a greater chance that it will get advice that works for it because everybody thinks alike and most likely has gone through problems which were alike and they will most likely know how to properly support it (I am aware that there are always differences, but the way of thinking of people with AS seems to overlap).

Fourth, this place is called Wrong Planet for a reason and Asperger's Syndrome is nicknamed wrong planet syndrome for a reason as well.
We do not feel like we belong here and this is our alternative hideout, what is so wrong about that? To give an example: Imagine living in a foreign country, maybe sometime after a world war and there is strong radiation outside of this foreign country, but you are only there by incident (a holiday trip during which a disaster happened/WW3), are having serious troubles to integrate into the culture and learn the language and the culture could not be much more of an opposite of what you are used to (while in your culture people you do not keep eye-contact with your conversation partner, in this one they actually expect that for example) but imagine that is the only habitable country. What now? You have to somehow deal with it and get some integration help (see #5) but you are not entirely alone, there are a few more people of your old country who were on holidays when this happened. Wouldn't you want to meet up with them and talk to them because you get along with them better? Of course one has to integrate - and we try to, but this forum is not about "How do I become NT", this forum is about autistic disorders and covers probably literally everything about them, how a life with one looks like, how to cope with certain problems and to discuss whether something is acceptable or not in social life.
Isn't the main goal of this forum exchange and to make us feel better and less like the trash of humanity/society?

Fifth, the statement that people here do not wish to have any help is wrong. The majority here for sure seems to want help from what I've seen and actually gets some form of help, like psychological support. I myself am going to a psychologist on a regular basis and actually work on my issues because I want to be integrated into a NT-society, because I have to. I live in one after all.

Sixth, the person who accused members of WP thinking in black and white actually did the same.
The post sounds as if he is generalizing a lot and referring to all aspies, which in the end, is black and white thinking, he left out the grey from his post for the most.
Especially such statements like

the member you're quoting has been banned for trolling