Sounding self indulgent

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Does anyone worry if they sound self indulgent/overly romantic in their damage or problems etc....either in their heads or speaking out loud? I repeat things over and over in my head so much that its often tiresome to have to write it out or say it out loud. Tedious you know. I mean if someone else said the things you long to express in the way you express them would you really be an avid listener? Or dismiss that person's musings as illogical etc. 'Man Up' is the words we are programmed with since childhood. I say that to myself sometimes when my mind goes to complex and it gets soaked with overly romanticised emotion losing my sense of perspective. What do you say to yourself to try to kill such thoughts when they become so rampant? Also how much hope do you have in your avid listeners for your own expression?

You can't really kill those thoughts. It's best to just write a lot. Write in a journal or pretend like you are going to post your long, dramatic prose on a message board or e-mail it to someone, but instead of sending it, copy and paste it into a word file and save it (or delete it...something I eventually started doing because those files just started getting too big).

And there will be the times that you can't help it and you do publicize your long, pitifully emotional and revealing prose, and you experience your shame, and you learn not to do that next time. I've learned to communicate my pitiful emotions in an indirect way, through metaphors. Sarcasm is an amazing tool, and you don't need to have people skills to use it. All you do is say the exact opposite of what you wanted to say. If you wanted to say, "I feel like a big load of useless chaotic s**t that is fooling everyone into believing he's smart," you can say, "Well, I'm the most coherent, popular, important person in the world, and that's why I'm writing to you today." This communicates a lot of what you wanted to say to anyone who would have even sympathized with you anyway, and in addition to that, it shows people that you are really tough and pretty badass because you're able to make fun of your own intense emotions in an attempt to relate to others.

i'm not sure exactly what you mean in your OP, but if i interpret it correctly, i can relate. When I write things down for others to see, I sound both very self-indulgent and also very alone. The latter is hard to express, but the words come out as if I don't have a friend in the world, nor does it seem like I'm speaking to anybody but myself (rather than a greater audience). This idiosyncracy increases in proportion with the overall length of my posts! However, I sound anything but romantic, because my writing lacks the touchy-feely words like "heart" and "care" and "courage". It is usually brutal, cold detail expressed in the most "self indulgent" manner.