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14 Jan 2013, 9:33 am

I realized that I am very easily repulsed or even disgusted by other people. For example, I have a sensitive nose, and if someone has even the least amount of body odor it almost makes me sick to sit near to them. Also, I find most people's laugh extremely annoying. It sounds like a monkey making noise and feels like someone is doing the fingernail-on-a-blackboard-thing.

I become aggressive when people around me make unnecessary noise or break rules. For example, there are a lot of guys in my course who spend the entire lecture talking. It almost drives me insane sometimes. Or when I sit in the library, in a location where talking is actually forbidden and phones HAVE to be turned off, there's constantly people talking, eating, phones ringing... it makes me furious that nobody cares about the rules, and people eating close to me is even worse. The smell of the food is disgusting, and I don't like the eating noise.

For these reasons and some more, I am immediately repulsed by and internally aggressive towards most people around me. I try not to let it show, but sometimes I just want to yell "shut the f*ck up and go away". And all that before they even talked to me or I had to deal with them in any way. It's the sheer presence and behavior.

This does not mean I hate all people in the world. But I find social, extroverted people that laugh and talk a lot very, very repulsive. I like quiet, clean, serious people that talk little and prefer thinking over laughing, but there just aren't too many of them.

Do you feel the same way?



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14 Jan 2013, 11:26 am

Yes, they are indeed repulsive. These types of people are just plain inconsiderate and only care about their own social status among whatever groups they aspire to be a part of. They constantly try to impress each other, dropping the right names while placing no value on self-awareness.

Tribe mentality, little to no integrity. This is why I am no longer on Facebook. Same s**t, different place.



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14 Jan 2013, 11:34 am

Yes, pretty much.

What annoys me further is that when I try to stick to the rule or ask for some respect, they seem to think that I am the problem. On the train, I sometimes have to change the carriage because of loud voices, explosive laughters, stinky noisy kids/babies, music (noise) from mobile phones, sweat-smelling/sh1t-smelling people etc. There are many other places that are full of those disgusting people.

I definitely prefer quiet, thinking, serious, clean people, but there are not many of them.



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14 Jan 2013, 2:40 pm

many NT's are morons
even some WP members are noisy idiots who love the sound of their own voice
usually males though the odd female does pop up
once they establish market share on noise
they seem to want to maintain that position
must be an ego thing
or something
like that
annoying
**ckers



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14 Jan 2013, 3:28 pm

Being a person who is affected by strong odors, and loud boisterous type people, I can certainly agree with anyone who would say that a large group of people are not necessarily good to deal with.

I probably associate very well electronically for this reason.

no smell
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no loudness

just electronic speech. :)


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14 Jan 2013, 4:31 pm

lol! this thread is hilarious and I agree with everything said. So much that I don't need to say more 8O



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14 Jan 2013, 4:39 pm

I don’t get disgusted by smells of people the way you do, although nobody likes to smell unpleasant smells from other people, which is another reason why hygiene is important (it’s been discussed so many times here on WP about social expectations with hygiene).

I just get disgusted by the way people are these days. Not all people, but some people are just jerks, especially those who get away with being jerks. I hate the way people’s minds work, that you’ve got to follow the herd like sheep, and you feel you are being watched and judged if you do not follow the herd, and people just can’t think for themselves any more. People let themselves be brainwashed by all these supermodels and the latest fashion designs, and if you can’t afford to buy all this fashion then you get ridiculed by people you don’t even know, and nobody takes into consideration that the UK is being ran by such crap government and lots of people are losing their jobs and homes and can’t always afford to conform, although they are doing the best they can.

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14 Jan 2013, 4:44 pm

What always amazes and annoys me is how many people seem to have no self reflection at all. Meaning that they apparently do things without thinking about what it would mean for other people... whether it is the right thing to do... whether they could become better persons.. no, they just do what's fun at the moment.

I do not mean for this thread to become another of these "all NTs s*ck"-topics. Of course there are great NTs as well. But still I feel that this is something that NTs are more likely to do.



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14 Jan 2013, 4:48 pm

I'm sure if the world had no perfumes and deodorants, you would've already been dead.



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14 Jan 2013, 4:51 pm

Sanctus wrote:
I realized that I am very easily repulsed or even disgusted by other people. For example, I have a sensitive nose, and if someone has even the least amount of body odor it almost makes me sick to sit near to them. Also, I find most people's laugh extremely annoying. It sounds like a monkey making noise and feels like someone is doing the fingernail-on-a-blackboard-thing.

I become aggressive when people around me make unnecessary noise or break rules. For example, there are a lot of guys in my course who spend the entire lecture talking. It almost drives me insane sometimes. Or when I sit in the library, in a location where talking is actually forbidden and phones HAVE to be turned off, there's constantly people talking, eating, phones ringing... it makes me furious that nobody cares about the rules, and people eating close to me is even worse. The smell of the food is disgusting, and I don't like the eating noise.

For these reasons and some more, I am immediately repulsed by and internally aggressive towards most people around me. I try not to let it show, but sometimes I just want to yell "shut the f*ck up and go away". And all that before they even talked to me or I had to deal with them in any way. It's the sheer presence and behavior.

This does not mean I hate all people in the world. But I find social, extroverted people that laugh and talk a lot very, very repulsive. I like quiet, clean, serious people that talk little and prefer thinking over laughing, but there just aren't too many of them.

Do you feel the same way?


I can relate and I agree with your assessment of the vast majority of humans.

One part of your difficulty may be the diagnosis of Misophonia.

This is the video that introduced me to this disorder. It started me on a path to understanding what is for me a daily nightmare. I hope this is helpful to you or anyone else.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BIhoEtlgiyI Pt. 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y11iPr_i-RQ Pt. 2

There is a lot more info out there if this is applicable to your life.
Take care. :)



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14 Jan 2013, 5:08 pm

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Sanctus wrote:
I realized that I am very easily repulsed or even disgusted by other people. For example, I have a sensitive nose, and if someone has even the least amount of body odor it almost makes me sick to sit near to them. Also, I find most people's laugh extremely annoying. It sounds like a monkey making noise and feels like someone is doing the fingernail-on-a-blackboard-thing.

I become aggressive when people around me make unnecessary noise or break rules. For example, there are a lot of guys in my course who spend the entire lecture talking. It almost drives me insane sometimes. Or when I sit in the library, in a location where talking is actually forbidden and phones HAVE to be turned off, there's constantly people talking, eating, phones ringing... it makes me furious that nobody cares about the rules, and people eating close to me is even worse. The smell of the food is disgusting, and I don't like the eating noise.

For these reasons and some more, I am immediately repulsed by and internally aggressive towards most people around me. I try not to let it show, but sometimes I just want to yell "shut the f*ck up and go away". And all that before they even talked to me or I had to deal with them in any way. It's the sheer presence and behavior.

This does not mean I hate all people in the world. But I find social, extroverted people that laugh and talk a lot very, very repulsive. I like quiet, clean, serious people that talk little and prefer thinking over laughing, but there just aren't too many of them.

Do you feel the same way?


I can relate and I agree with your assessment of the vast majority of humans.

One part of your difficulty may be the diagnosis of Misophonia.

This is the video that introduced me to this disorder. It started me on a path to understanding what is for me a daily nightmare. I hope this is helpful to you or anyone else.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BIhoEtlgiyI Pt. 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y11iPr_i-RQ Pt. 2

There is a lot more info out there if this is applicable to your life.
Take care. :)


Hi slave,
I just read this post because after meeting you on the other thread, you seem interesting and I thought you might be posting something interesting which was indeed the case.
I've always related more to sensory processing disorder, but this is a helpful pointer.
I do have a lot of trouble with some sounds, not as bad as rage, usually, but crikey.
People's voices literally determine whether I like them or not (although I also have a theory about that). Sounds are really annoying.
Although, I also note that I hate group behaviour a LOT.

Clapping, cheering (noisy & group behaviour. YUK), everyone singing happy birthday, sometimes dancing.. the list goes on.

Also what I don't like about talking to people is that often when you talk to them, they tell you what they think, and then often you have to think about that which is usually a complete waste of time and extraordinarily disheartening.

Otherwise, I'm not nearly so negative. And one on one people can be absolutely lovely. I'm a fan of taking the best and leaving the rest. Wherever possible.


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14 Jan 2013, 5:27 pm

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slave wrote:
Sanctus wrote:
I realized that I am very easily repulsed or even disgusted by other people. For example, I have a sensitive nose, and if someone has even the least amount of body odor it almost makes me sick to sit near to them. Also, I find most people's laugh extremely annoying. It sounds like a monkey making noise and feels like someone is doing the fingernail-on-a-blackboard-thing.

I become aggressive when people around me make unnecessary noise or break rules. For example, there are a lot of guys in my course who spend the entire lecture talking. It almost drives me insane sometimes. Or when I sit in the library, in a location where talking is actually forbidden and phones HAVE to be turned off, there's constantly people talking, eating, phones ringing... it makes me furious that nobody cares about the rules, and people eating close to me is even worse. The smell of the food is disgusting, and I don't like the eating noise.

For these reasons and some more, I am immediately repulsed by and internally aggressive towards most people around me. I try not to let it show, but sometimes I just want to yell "shut the f*ck up and go away". And all that before they even talked to me or I had to deal with them in any way. It's the sheer presence and behavior.

This does not mean I hate all people in the world. But I find social, extroverted people that laugh and talk a lot very, very repulsive. I like quiet, clean, serious people that talk little and prefer thinking over laughing, but there just aren't too many of them.

Do you feel the same way?


I can relate and I agree with your assessment of the vast majority of humans.

One part of your difficulty may be the diagnosis of Misophonia.

This is the video that introduced me to this disorder. It started me on a path to understanding what is for me a daily nightmare. I hope this is helpful to you or anyone else.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BIhoEtlgiyI Pt. 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y11iPr_i-RQ Pt. 2

There is a lot more info out there if this is applicable to your life.
Take care. :)


Hi slave,
I just read this post because after meeting you on the other thread, you seem interesting and I thought you might be posting something interesting which was indeed the case.
I've always related more to sensory processing disorder, but this is a helpful pointer.
I do have a lot of trouble with some sounds, not as bad as rage, usually, but crikey.
People's voices literally determine whether I like them or not (although I also have a theory about that). Sounds are really annoying.
Although, I also note that I hate group behaviour a LOT.

Clapping, cheering (noisy & group behaviour. YUK), everyone singing happy birthday, sometimes dancing.. the list goes on.

Also what I don't like about talking to people is that often when you talk to them, they tell you what they think, and then often you have to think about that which is usually a complete waste of time and extraordinarily disheartening.

Otherwise, I'm not nearly so negative. And one on one people can be absolutely lovely. I'm a fan of taking the best and leaving the rest. Wherever possible.


I believe that there is an overlap between SPD and Misophonia, like a Venn diagram of 2 circles overlapping in the middle. Of course both SPD and Misophonia are known co-morbidities which are correlated with ASD. Curiously there are many people with Misophonia that have no signs of ASD. As is often the case this disorder is a Medical mystery with a complex etiology.

I'm with you on being in groups, it is just too much stimulation for me too handle and I find myself wanting to escape to an empty room or even a closet...lol.

:D :D



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14 Jan 2013, 5:31 pm

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Sanctus wrote:
I realized that I am very easily repulsed or even disgusted by other people. For example, I have a sensitive nose, and if someone has even the least amount of body odor it almost makes me sick to sit near to them. Also, I find most people's laugh extremely annoying. It sounds like a monkey making noise and feels like someone is doing the fingernail-on-a-blackboard-thing.

I become aggressive when people around me make unnecessary noise or break rules. For example, there are a lot of guys in my course who spend the entire lecture talking. It almost drives me insane sometimes. Or when I sit in the library, in a location where talking is actually forbidden and phones HAVE to be turned off, there's constantly people talking, eating, phones ringing... it makes me furious that nobody cares about the rules, and people eating close to me is even worse. The smell of the food is disgusting, and I don't like the eating noise.

For these reasons and some more, I am immediately repulsed by and internally aggressive towards most people around me. I try not to let it show, but sometimes I just want to yell "shut the f*ck up and go away". And all that before they even talked to me or I had to deal with them in any way. It's the sheer presence and behavior.

This does not mean I hate all people in the world. But I find social, extroverted people that laugh and talk a lot very, very repulsive. I like quiet, clean, serious people that talk little and prefer thinking over laughing, but there just aren't too many of them.

Do you feel the same way?


I can relate and I agree with your assessment of the vast majority of humans.

One part of your difficulty may be the diagnosis of Misophonia.

This is the video that introduced me to this disorder. It started me on a path to understanding what is for me a daily nightmare. I hope this is helpful to you or anyone else.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BIhoEtlgiyI Pt. 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y11iPr_i-RQ Pt. 2

There is a lot more info out there if this is applicable to your life.
Take care. :)


Hi slave,
I just read this post because after meeting you on the other thread, you seem interesting and I thought you might be posting something interesting which was indeed the case.
I've always related more to sensory processing disorder, but this is a helpful pointer.
I do have a lot of trouble with some sounds, not as bad as rage, usually, but crikey.
People's voices literally determine whether I like them or not (although I also have a theory about that). Sounds are really annoying.
Although, I also note that I hate group behaviour a LOT.

Clapping, cheering (noisy & group behaviour. YUK), everyone singing happy birthday, sometimes dancing.. the list goes on.

Also what I don't like about talking to people is that often when you talk to them, they tell you what they think, and then often you have to think about that which is usually a complete waste of time and extraordinarily disheartening.

Otherwise, I'm not nearly so negative. And one on one people can be absolutely lovely. I'm a fan of taking the best and leaving the rest. Wherever possible.


I believe that there is an overlap between SPD and Misophonia, like a Venn diagram of 2 circles overlapping in the middle. Of course both SPD and Misophonia are known co-morbidities which are correlated with ASD. Curiously there are many people with Misophonia that have no signs of ASD. As is often the case this disorder is a Medical mystery with a complex etiology.

I'm with you on being in groups, it is just too much stimulation for me too handle and I find myself wanting to escape to an empty room or even a closet...lol.

:D :D


LOL. Yes, that is interesting. Perhaps the combination of two physiological (or anatomical) differences results in SPD, because they seem connected. That is, sensitivity and SPD seem connected.
And hence the Venn diagram concept is absolutely sensical.
;)

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15 Jan 2013, 4:40 am

Public transport at peak hour is a nightmare. Many of the reasons for this are listed in the OPs post.



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15 Jan 2013, 4:51 am

Well the thing is, people on the internet can be very disgusting too, by being obnoxious, inconsiderate, annoying, rude and hateful. Trolling and Flaming can cause a lot of pain. But yes, I think this old article (warning: rather adult humour here) by Charlie Brooker sums up the anguish of having to deal with people in the flesh or on some ridiculous "social media" quite well.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree ... gitalmedia

I am actually not that jaded and pseudo-misanthropic a person, but sometimes, one's stress threshold just gets used up.



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15 Jan 2013, 4:54 am

In college, I've had some minor fights with roommates due to loud music or smells from certain foods.

One of the guys drank water in a pretty noisy fashion (gulp, gulp, gulp, gulp, gulp!) and that irritated me very much.


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