Any Autistics or Aspies can act like a neurotypical person.

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Hello, I have very mild form of autism, (PDD-NOS), but It seems like I can act like a neurotypical person like anybody else. I rarely show autism symptoms, except for narrow interest. My social skills are fine, even cognitive skills, communication skills and I have a very High Life skills and I'm very smart also.

Does any aspies or autistics can Act normally like me and being independent.

Neurotypical score - 75%
Diagnosis - PDD-NOS (High Functioning Autism)

Well at my university and the ppl I live together with don't know about my ASD.
So, I can act more or less pretty well kind of like an NT, but under too much pressure it doesn't work anymore.

I would think any Aspie could pass for NT. The things that NTs do instinctively without thinking about them can be processed on a conscious level.

I can appear NT but in reality I am consciously aware of all the social processes that would just happen without my awareness if I actually were NT. I'm using a different part of my brain for the same thing and because of that I can never be quite as fast as a true NT but I come close enough that I am up to speed in many situations.

There are still some times in which I am too slow and out of rhythm. During those times I am about a tenth of a second behind everybody and I make mistakes before instantly recognizing them and that makes me feel self-conscious.


Any social thinking process that a NT can do instinctively, an Aspie can learn to do consciously. You can get pretty good at it after a while.

Yep, right up until you burn out from exhaustion, or make a mistake because you can't hold all the gazillions of little social rules in your conscious mind at once.

I can't.

I can fake it for a while but my lack of filter between brain and mouth usually gives me away.

This is the truth! I love how you worded it! That goes for me also, or if i happen to wander off in my eyes... then i just appear to be "zoned out" to them!

I guess I'm pretty good at faking it most of the time. I do have pretty decent communication skills, although it's something that I've worked on over the years. I do often forget to make eye contact, or just can't bring myself to do it even when I know I should. I'm horrible at making small talk, so I just try to surround myself with people who have the same interests as me. But I don't have too many obvious mannerisms, my stimming is really mild and subtle, and I probably don't come off as odd-looking.
I was probably much worse at it growing up, but no one knew what Asperger's was thirty years ago, so people just thought I was really weird. Whenever I run into people who know anything about autism, they can always tell right away. I do still struggle with phone calls and meeting people, and sometimes I'll slip into the robot voice on the phone.

I can generally act like an NT. I have a lot of self-awareness, and I am hypersensitive to how others perceive me, which is why I am afraid of a social faux pas. None of my friends know I have AS, some of them have figured that I am an anxious/nervous person and also shy, but I am anyway. But you can be anxious and shy without having an ASD, so showing anxious and shy traits doesn't make my ASD obvious.

I really would rather just be myself, unfortunately, that would end my employment chances. Pretty much have to "fake it" to get along in the workplace.

Sincerely,
Matthew

I always act normal than being Autistic. Because I want to have a free life to pay bills, and work.

I have AS and this is what it's like for me as well.....I don't have many friends as it is, but I've only told two of them that I have a ASD. The rest of my friends & acquaintances don't know and probably just think I'm really quiet, shy, and weird at times. If they only knew that internally there is a lot more going on.


It really depends on the situation and the setting though, and my mood & over all feeling at the time. My stimming is generally relatively mild, mainly consists of twisting/rubbing/bending of the hands & fingers, but I do do this a lot more when interacting with people. Sometimes I'll swing my legs or twist my body/legs around, something I totally do with out noticing, my friends have probably just become used to the random things I do and pass it off as something that "I" do. I will say, over the years I have learned to suppress some of my quirky mannerisms and behaviors.


I am really quiet though, I probably won't speak to you unless you speak to me first. I'm really spacey, often spacing out and getting distracted by various patters/textures/lights/anything that spins. I practically never ever make eye contact, and my eyes do move & scan around a lot.


So when people meet me or interact with me I probably just come across as a bit "off" or slightly askew...Most of the time I'm so quiet and in my own world people often forget that I'm even there, this has happened quiet often actually.

This! then it leads to overthinking everything ....stress......then people get anoyed because I'm too slow to respond!! !! ! If I thought they could deal with what I'm thinking I'd just say that

I can play along, but I'm just so free in expressing my mind. I don't have much of a filter. I should be on stage really.

I think you hit the nail right on the head with everything you said here.

I wasn't "allowed" to have a psychiatric problem when I was a child (my parents were very right-wing and religious and didn't believe in "psychology" ... go figure!), so I suffered through my autism and, I believe, learned how to bring it at least up to the level of "high-functioning Asperger's."

Now people are shocked when I feel like I've gotten to know them well enough that I can tell them about it ... not so much because they have a lack of sympathy, but more because I've trained myself so well over the years that my traits are very well hidden.

I really think it has to do with the person and how severe their ASD is. Like, with me, I can act somewhat normal, but people generally realize I'm not just by how I react to certain things. And I have always depended on other people to some degree.