AgentPalpatine wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
I used to run a monthly support group for people on the autistic spectrum, attended mainly by people with Aspergers.
I bought in a charge of 50p after the group had been running for a while, to fund biscuits etc.
I wasn't running the group for long after bringing the fee in as I got exceedingly fed up of it all.
It was a lot of work for very little appreciation and little to no help from any of the attendees
The group is still going, run by an NT now, but I don't think attendance is very high
Nessa238, as always, I thank you for your willingness to contribute your time and energy to such a project, and even through I'm from another country, I'd hope you'd accept my thanks for your hard work. It's unfortunate that some did not appreciate your efforts and that you did'nt get any assistance.
Murderface wrote:
No you had me at group.
Is not WrongPlanet a group? Are we not a group of individuals who gather and exchange communication? I'm sure we all have arms, we all eat, we all breathe in front of the computer. What's the difference between WP and an in-person meeting?
It's ironic that there's been more appreciation of my efforts from a person I've never met than anyone who attended that group!
I understand perfectly why people are happy to post on WP but wouldn't want to attend a group in person. Posting on WP does not take people out of their comfort zones. They do not have to go to a strange place and meet strange people, with all the uncertainty surrounding how it will go and whether they will feel accepted by the other people there. Posting on WP allows people to put their ideas across with none of the social anxiety or rejection risk. It also means that the person's thoughts alone are being considered, not how attractive or charismatic they are - things that are usually the main deciders of how much attention a person gets in a group in real life. Discussion forums subvert the normal social hierarchy rules and make the interaction process far more democratic.
I suspect people who can't see much difference between interacting on a discussion board and in real life have not suffered being made to feel invisible or not 'good enough' for a group in real life ie they haven't experienced what it's like to be at the bottom of the social hierarchy of the group and how demoralising the experience is.
Personally I am anyone's equal on a discussion board but in real life in a social group I am invariably sidelined, overlooked and ignored by people and even if I am given attention there's always this background sense that it's grudging attention and that I am not a natural person to be holding the group's attention. That group would basically have been enthralled if someone from the 'X-Factor' was running the group, which basically says it all in terms of how much of a mismatch of intellects was going on!
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