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06 Oct 2012, 3:55 pm

My friend just stayed with me for a few hours. As a result I am totally exhausted and will need to sleep.

Does anyone else find socialising so draining and exhuasting that they need to sleep afterwards to get energy back?

I am strongly considering to drastically restrict my human contact to a minimum because it is so utterly exhausted.

I can't type anymore. Too tired.sSorry for the typos, tiredness affects my coordination and vision.


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06 Oct 2012, 4:06 pm

Many people on the spectrum experience this issue although, I've never personally experienced it.

It is fascinating to me that socialising physically exhausts people. Does anyone have any theorys as to why this happens?


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06 Oct 2012, 4:18 pm

Socialising doesn't physically exhaust me but it can lower my mood after a while. I feel most joyous whilst being alone; the though of someone being with me for too long just hurts me.



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06 Oct 2012, 4:28 pm

Socializing IS physically exhausting.

For me, there is so much physical stimulus, so much to try to pay attention to, so much to attempt to modulate, that I get worn out.

Mental work makes you physically tired; your brain is an organ too. Also, strong emotions wear me out, especially since I don't know what to do with them.



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06 Oct 2012, 4:32 pm

Yes, socializing is eggstremely exhausting.

Even talking to people is eggstremely exhausting. After being at my office for a few hours and talking to people, I need to come home and crash. I can't do anything else for the rest of the day, eggsept play Bejeweled Blitz in bed, then go to sleep.



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06 Oct 2012, 4:40 pm

Socializing is very exhausting for me too. And in general being around people wears me out. I experienced this yesterday when I was riding the train. Even though I had my music ( which blocked out nearly all other sounds. ) It wore me out, after 2 hours I really needed to get off the train.

But yeah, socializing in any form is exhausting for me.



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06 Oct 2012, 5:15 pm

It doesn't physically exhaust me, just mentally. Most of it is emotional exhaustion.



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06 Oct 2012, 5:22 pm

JellyCat wrote:
It doesn't physically exhaust me, just mentally. Most of it is emotional exhaustion.


I think for me, it's a mix of the physical and emotional. It's hard for me to define the two, since my emotions are felt physically. I can't conceive how anyone else would feel them, but that's just me.



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06 Oct 2012, 5:29 pm

socializing= exhaustion (both physical and emotional) for me.



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06 Oct 2012, 5:38 pm

socialinzing is more exhausting than digging a hole all day or walking 5 miles. I have huge amounts of energy when im alone.



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06 Oct 2012, 5:47 pm

I find being around people emotionally and physically exhausting.Especially if it is a large group of people.Too much talking around me causes this effect too.I either have to go to sleep if its too much,listen to my music or be alone etc afterwards.



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06 Oct 2012, 5:58 pm

Totally exhausting.

I went to a compulsory counsel session about university in early September and I tried hard to socialise some by paying attention to some of the (50ish) people there, listening to the talks and asking questions about what they told us.

I wanted to see if I could get by because I felt that I've come far since my diagnosis and since I left school in 2008. But I became utterly exhausted after about two hours of sitting there and listening and trying to be as sociable as I can manage to appear anyway, my vision started to flicker, I got splitting a headache, I couldn't manage to look people in the eye and listening simultaneously anymore, couldn't keep my eyes on signs about where to go or when the trains would arrive and on traffic anymore, I started saying silly things that left my conversational partner speechless for a few seconds before they could think of a reply and a way to keep the conversation going - all of the usual stuff. I slept in a lot on the following days and I felt really exhausted and mushy until I finally felt on top of it again when I got up on Saturday.

I guess that means restricted socialising for me at university because lectures and grades are more important to me than most anything.


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06 Oct 2012, 6:00 pm

Yes, it takes a lot out of me. Especially when I start working.



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06 Oct 2012, 7:24 pm

This is why I can't work and socialize at the same time (ie, why I can't have a job).

I know in the NT population, the ambivert/extravert percentage is 80%, while the introvert/ambivert percentage is 20%. I think it's reversed in the autistic population, it's reversed, and in fact, the introvert/ambivert percentage might be a good deal higher than 80%, but not 100%.

I guess the way you can tell how extraverted you are if you autistic is how much you spend resting so you can go back to socializing, and how much of it is so you go back to isolated activities.


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06 Oct 2012, 7:40 pm

That's why I work night's ,so I can limit the amount of socialization that I have to do.Sometimes I think I must be the only person on this planet who would be content to not utter one word the entire day.



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06 Oct 2012, 7:54 pm

I get physically exhausted due to prolonged socializing, although it doesn't always happen immediately after; I usually lose concentration or urgency in carrying out other tasks. Though after an hour or two, I fall asleep quite quickly.


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