Introvert/Extrovert Asperger's

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My mentor and I both think that there are introvert people with AS and extrovert people with AS.

I think I am a mixture of introvert/extrovert aspie, but more introvert. I like my own company, I avoid social gatherings, I don't socialise much and I don't have many friends. However, when I am with a friend, or my support worker etc., I talk a lot. But because of my AS, I will ramble a lot about my favourite interests, and I will not notice anything about the person I'm talking to. I may also be inappropriate or blunt.

For example, at my Dad's office (oil and gas engineering), I was talking to my Dad's secretary. Then I stopped, walked up to a stranger standing there who was about to be interviewed. I said something along the lines of "the boss is a bit scary but he's actually nice. Don't talk about gas flares because he hates them. Your suit looks uncomfortable, why are you wearing it?" Everyone was just standing there and staring at me. I didn't know that was inappropriate until my Dad's secretary told me.

I used to be really phobic and shy around new people, but now, if I am introduced to a new person by someone I know, I will talk to them, but people tell me I am "odd" when I talk, especially to people who aren't used to me.

Hence partly extrovert, but odd.

What type are you?

Introverted, definately.

There's different types of extro/introverts for sho~

Mine is a bit in the "weird" side I think. I have a lot of "cons and pros" from both so to say~
I'm usually very shy and quiet overall and mostly just enjoy to let others do the talking and wait until it's directed at me.
I hate to force myself to "butt in" in the middle of conversation, because I have a horrible sense of timing when to say anything,
and I usually don't know what to say, hence I barely talk a word.

But in some social environment, like in a club with really good people, or LAN event in someones home... I have this switch in my head that when
certain stuff happens in a social meeting that make me feel good (I make a golden joke etc.),
I turn really extrovert and talk my heart out and might even become really arrogant and be very different to my introverted side.

And after the party or some event ends, I come home in a really "God-mode" state and feel really good about myself and also really exhausted mentally.
Then the hours pass and I start to feel very introverted again and begin to think 'how did I do that?', and I might even start to feel bad and ashamed of myself~

So... I guess I'm some flip-flap-switchtrovert

Introverted.

I get embarrassed over my "extrovert" moments because during them I talk constantly about my special interest, and I act oddly apparently.

However no matter what state I am in, my voice is always monotone. Even when I am rambling about trains, I am totally monotone and have very little, if any, expression on my face. So not totally extroverted moments.

However I am about to spend the next two days alone and I am going to love it. I am looking forward to moving out of supported housing and into a council flat of MY OWN to be on MY OWN. I hate living with other people.

Extremely introvert plus melancholic.

When I said I have some extroversion, I didn't really mean that I love being with people, because I don't. But when I am in a situation where I am made to be with people, I start rambling about trains or something, and then act odd. I don't know why.

I'm going to embrace my introvert side. Extroversion is exhausting. I am going to delete any trace of extroversion from myself.

It's okay to be an extravert if that's genuinely who you are. But, to misquote Amanda Baggs, "I know autistic extroverts. It seems exhausting".

I'm a proud introvert, through and through.

Extroversion IS exhausting. I will stop it tbh.

Introverted.

I also think there are both types. I'm pretty sure my dad had Asperger's and he was about as extroverted as they come.

Stable introvert (i.e., non-anxious). I am exhausted by socialization, spend most of my time alone and prefer it that way, but I am not anxious when in social situations and can even do public speaking without more than a small amount of anxiety.

Socialising is exhausting. But for some reason my brain makes me talk a lot, which makes it more exhausting. Hence why I'm stopping the talking.

I can be extroverted around the right people. Otherwise I just sit there and listen. Then I get bored because it's not very stimulating or interesting so I go home and never return.

I'm mostly introverted.

I used to be very introverted, but because the AS diagnosis wasn't around when I was a kid, I was forced to learn how to interact with people. I do OK in conversation and am not afraid of talking with people I don't know, but am painfully aware of when my conversation stalls and that they are seeing my nervousness as I speak with them. In other words, I learned some "pragmatics," but because they never came naturally to me, conversations never generally win over any friends for me. I wish I could be naturally comfortable with people, but I'm pretty sure that I'm just going to have to keep slowly learning how to be that way.