Advice request- Moved out of home

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Hello All,
(Sorry if this is in the wrong place)

I have been off for a long time as I have moved out of home for work. This is my first time out of home and I have moved two states away where I don’t know anything about the area or any people. I am renting a property and don’t have to share with anyone, work is a five min car drive and the shops are 10 mins away. It is also hotter on average than I am used to.

I have created this thread as I am finding that looking after myself is more annoying and harder than I first thought. When I first envisioned this move I imagined a clean house with a clear schedule and fresh start. Unfortunately things are slowly changing and I am struggling to get into a routine.

I would like to know about the first time you moved out and any difficulties you came across and if/how you resolved them.

Also I would appreciate any advice in establishing any housekeeping/life away from home rules that I may not be aware of (especially in a rental property).

Thirdly please let me know any other advice about living so far from home or simply living on my own for the first time.

Thanks,
MrBackward

Well first off, congrats.

My first apartment was with my sister and her bf of the time (largely due to him having to leave home and not having anywhere to go), it didn't work out very well, not because of having issues in terms of living away from home but rather because they stopped following the pre-established rules of the household (that we all compiled and agreed to), so I told them to leave and they ended up staying with my parents instead (the lease was in my name).

I found the worst part was having 0 internet access and everything being super boring after a while. Also alot of the time I couldn't afford regular household items that are essential so i was constantly asking for more of this or that, every month.

i've found living away from home to be easy in some ways and harder in others. moving to a place where i was far away from cultural ties was the hardest thing for me, that and my budget. my budget i learned to manage by writing the price of everything i spend down on paper after i buy it so i am constantly aware of how much i am spending and know when to slow down. i also learned how to shop- always in bulk, don't buy perishables in large amounts, buy bread late at night because it's always on sale, buy fruit and veg and legumes from ethnic shops (i've always bought from lebanese shops because it's what i am. i swear it's cheaper than woolies or coles- they're ripping you off). there are times when i can't afford everything but i have places i can go for food so it's okay but i'm not sure what services you can access. never use the dryer. it's a waste of power and nobody likes a fat electricity bill. sometimes it saves time to cook a large pot of food and then freeze some for later consumption. i'm a uni student so it's what i do. and i clean while waiting for the food to cook. there were a few places i could go that sort of related to culture but i had a massive culture crisis and that wasn't resolved easily. moving to a new place was easier than i thought because i had a lot of time to get used to it. i checked out the suburb's history in books and on the internet before i moved there so i was familiar with it(the place has an awesome working class & aboriginal history. it was also where many lebanese migrated in the 1800s, including some of my relatives). i also located important things like the library which was conveniently the next block over. i also moved into a share house so it wasn't empty. i had previously lived with my family of 6. i got back into routine fairly easily but that was aided by my location which is the thing you're having issues with.

Thanks for the replies,
It seems that most people struggle with money when they move home so I guess that I am lucky as money isn't an issue with me.
Jaden- The pre-established rules of the house is what I am struggling with, I had always thought that I would do my dishes immediately after using them but in the heat i am finding that I am becoming "lazy". Its too hot to do dishes, too hot to hang the washing on the line, too hot to cook tea ect...
VMSmith- I dont think I could handle a share house, i think that I would go mad! I am finding it difficult locating services as the town isn't laid out well. I went to the tourist info centre and they have no clue about half the stuff! The location has definitly been an issue.
I suppose that it realy comes down to accepting that plans dont always work the way they should and to suck it up....
Wonder how well that plan will work?