What do you do when a fight breaks out?

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I'm curious as to how Aspies respond in a situation in which violence happens. Do you run and get help? Stand and stare? Get involved? I find myself standing and staring and it is definitely a problem...

Yeah, I tend to stare too, I don't want to look, I hate violence, but I can't help myself, I am fascinated by the events unfolding.

I think it's a normal reaction to stare.

depends on the situation.. i live in a pretty rough favela (by my towns standards, this is a pretty rough area) so i see fights all the time.. most of the time, its not random, blood feuds and old scores to settle, defending the family honor type of stuff (some guy disrespected you sister, or your wife, or some female family member).. most of the time you just mind your own business.. i went out drinking on thursday and a pretty big brawl broke out.. just the people involved got caught up in it, everyone else just kept on drinking, minding their own business and drink..

I stare for ages, and then go home and write about it.

I get in the middle and try and break it up.

I've not found myself in that situation, but I'm the kind of person who would (perhaps foolishly) try to do something about it. I'm a big man with a deep voice and, when I want, a menacing demeanor. I might not need to use more than my voice. I'll physically intervene to prevent injury if I'm not concerned about my personal safety. If I am, I'll call the cops.

If I saw someone getting hurt I'd probably wade in and try to break it up, and end up regretting it.

I just watch since thats what people do when I get into 1 but then I don't really care as they might get hit by a defence move if they get in the middle... Then ill be too busy saying sorry to them lol

What if it is people you know? I don't know why I'm asking this other than that the other day, two of my friends got into a heated screaming fight and started throwing things and I just kinda stood and stared without making any attempt to stop them. I got called a jerk as a result of not doing anything.

I glance for a few seconds, just to see how bad it is, then quickly look in the other direction, or better yet, walk away. Sometimes, I deliberately take a step backwards, as if giving the people room. In the part of the world where I live, looking at people fighting will provoke them to get you into the fight, even if you're just a random bystander.

I'm the sort of person who avoids getting involved and when there's a riot somewhere I am not curious and go looking like other people. Same thing when an ambulance passes most people watch it pass, but I'm not interested.
Nevertheless if it's an obvious injustice in my eyes and not just a quarrel between equals I would try to help in some way.

Work's both ways you will either be called something for not splitting it up or get called something for splitting it up, really it's they fault for getting into it anyway... Instead of talking can't see how you can be a friend and start a fight with a friend...

I have had thing's thrown at me I took cover think everything except the sink was thrown my way...

/* This is the kind of thing's I say, you know your going to have to replace all this stuff your throwing at me, put it this way at least you won't have to wash them now.... Or is that you’re Intention, so you wanting me to help you tidy up after you’re finished or you going to be doing it yourself, thanks I love these biscuits...
*/


Really you normally throw something back in the jerk thing... to explain why you didn't split it up... Unless they where beating each other hard you didn't really do anything wrong but to be stunned why the hell the fight started in the first place...

I tend to stare in awe. I do nothing to try and stop it.

I have stopped many drunk fights by getting in the middle(only involving at least one person I knew).I am a small female and have luckily found most guys dont want to hit females in public.I once jumped on the back of some guy who was choking a male friend.The only reason I didnt get my ass kicked is that the guy was a "gentleman" who wouldnt attack a girl.(lucky me).
If the people fighting are strangers...I just get out of the way,unless one is smaller,then I might try and embarrass(I love that word.....bare ass...very appropriate term) the larger person into stopping(public humiliation can work in your favor at these times).

I dont like to watch fights and have never been in one myself.I have no problem walking away from someone trying to bait me.I can use my words(sarcasm and self-depreciation) to defend myself and then walk away.I have very little need to "defend my ego" as I usually dont care what jerks think of me.

I tend to stand and stare and hope that the trouble doesn't come my way