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The Aspie Quiz has 35 pictures of eyes. I matched the expression to the emotion word but this was too hard. I got 2 correct.. The female eyes looked flat and dead to me. The men looked worried, distracted or in pain.
I've taken it three times, but I am really bad at this part.
My Aspie score is 165, but I was unsure until the eyes.
There is something incredibly missing. I miss what I never had. Why?
Some of you are good at faces. How are you 'getting it'?
What can I do to learn?

For me this quiz was just coin flipping.

How I deal with this inability: over the years my internal pattern database of situations had become pretty large, I rely on that. This database mainly lacks eye and facial expressions (I can read that poorly as well), but contains a lot of other parameters like context, topic, how fast or loud people speak, body language like movement of hands, etc etc. All those stored parameters together give me a pretty good accuracy assessing a situation, even with the gap of missing eye expressions.

eye-talk is a lost cause for me, but i have also found ways around it, the entire body gives off clues to the basic emotions so i just respond to those (more complex emotions still dont work though).

also, as to why eye-talk and true eyecontact is hard for us,i recently found this article "Eye Contact Triggers Threat Signals In Autistic Children's Brains"

When people talk with their eyes it makes me extremely nervous. If they are eye talking, then they aren't saying it out loud for a reason and it might not be a good reason...

Also one time a mean person keep trying to mess with me by using their eyes and everytime i tried to call them out on it they stopped an pretended to act normal. The person turned out to be a sociopath and we've avoided that family ever since that incident.
It takes a sadist to mess with others to attempt to gain emotional turmoil. He would mess with his gf as well.

I don't like eye talking, i can't read it and its secretive.

Eye-talk is Chinese to me. I don't get it at all.

I noticed that in that eye test, I often look at a picture and think "well this person is definitely sad/angry/whatever". Then I look at the possible answers and they're all something completely different. Even when I know the "right" answer, I often still see something different in the expression.

Also, I seem to make more mistakes with the female eyes (I'm female myself).

Most of the eyes look 'indifferent' or 'staring' to me. Some are obvious, but with others...

Actually, I took the eye test again on 23andme, and I got most of them correct. The funny thing is, most of them were totally random guesses. Guess I just got lucky.

I did decently on this test but I'm still incapable of reading emotion in someone's eyes in person. In real life, I think these 'expressions' are so fleeting that I don't have time to decode them.