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I am emotionally immature because of my AS and have anxiety as well. I am prone too anger and jealousy when around people

I am 23 at the moment but do you think because of my aspergers I will be in the situation until the day I die?

No. You will grow and learn. You will change.

No, absolutely not.
We are just as capable of changing our behaviour and the way we think and feel as people who don't have aspergers.
You can't turn yourself into a completely different person but changes for the better are certainly possible.

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I'd say the answer is up to you

Don't worry, having AS does not mean you cannot learn from situations and experiences. It just means some things take longer and perhaps your mind learns them in a slightly different way. You may find the general experiences of life harder because of having AS but that doesn't mean things can't improve.

I am not the same person I was as a teenager or early twenties person. I still have some niaveties, and I may be more cynical now, life forces you to toughen up to survive. Just remember to speak up when you need help, coping alone causes a lot of problems.

Don't feel bad if you're not at the same level as your peers.

Everyone grows-up at their own pace.

I'm still a spoiled little brat, but I seem to be managing on my own.

I am 27 and I still struggle with that!! !!

I can look back like about every 5 years or so and be embarrassed about how I immature I acted and how much I have changed and matured. I think it takes time, but it can be done. There's always hope!

You can see it like this; no matter how many times somebody showed me, I could not for the life of me tie my own shoes until I was 11, then one day my hands went straight to the laces and I tied them without hardly thinking about it. It just shows that we're not incapable of learning, just that we may need to try different methods.

If you can read, write and post threads, I'm sure you're also capable of feeding and dressing yourself, and in that I'd say you're not stuck in the situation of being an infant. You may not develop at the same rate as a NT but that doesn't mean your HDD is out of free space

I can kind of relate to that...I am not sure how old I was when I first learned to tie my shoes, I know I was older and normally most kids have learned to tie them by then but one day a boy (that was LEFT handed) taught me how. It was weird how I learned to tie them from someone who was left handed but I am right handed myself.

For me it is a lot of changing the way I learn because I think differently and it's just finding that way that I can learn it.

many people with AS are not particularly emotionally immature, and they do not have excessive anger or jealousy. so if you want to change these things about yourself, i am sure you can make some progress as it's probably not hard-wired. you have to make the decision that you want to change it, though.


as Browncoat said, that's actually mostly up to you. AS will probably always affect you to some degree, but it doesn't have to keep you from living a full and decent life.