How often do you go on social outings?

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How often do you go on social outings with people who are not your family members?
Two times or more per week. 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
At least once a week. 5%  5%  [ 2 ]
Twice a month 19%  19%  [ 8 ]
Once a month 21%  21%  [ 9 ]
3 to 4 times a year. 29%  29%  [ 12 ]
Once a year. 26%  26%  [ 11 ]
Total votes : 42

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15 Feb 2013, 10:43 pm

How often do you go on social outings with people who are not your family members?

This might include parties, bar with friends, concerts, eating out, etc.


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15 Feb 2013, 10:47 pm

There is no poll option for me to choose.

Once in the past 4 years.



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15 Feb 2013, 10:50 pm

Yeah.

Two years ago now. Ha.



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15 Feb 2013, 10:54 pm

I haven't been on a social outing for almost three years.



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15 Feb 2013, 10:56 pm

Moore often than I would on my own. My only friend in the area keeps hauling me to church functions so I get social practice.



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15 Feb 2013, 11:07 pm

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15 Feb 2013, 11:24 pm

I don't go on social outings.


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15 Feb 2013, 11:31 pm

There's no option that says "never" so I'll just have to say it.

Never

I never go anywhere on the basis of social interaction, only to buy things that I need and that's only like once a month.


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15 Feb 2013, 11:45 pm

10 or so years ago. I.think it was when I was 19. Might have been 18 can't 100% recall.

Can we have more options added to the poll.



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15 Feb 2013, 11:57 pm

Same as last few posters, I only go when not doing sp would upset immediate family members and if I have to for work purposes. As a result, I go to church with my wife fairly regularly but in no way do I ever allow these occasions to become regular social arrangements. That is my worst nightmare. Joining prayer groups, church committees, parent-teacher groups etc is out of the question.

The trouble is that deep down I actually do want to be social and go places with people. It is simply that all my life it just doesn't quite be what I expect of it. People pull away from me, find others more interesting to talk to. Its as if I am the magnet with a polarity that repels other magnets. Then when people do pull me into their circle, its for all the wrong reasons; I find myself having to participate in various things that make me uncomfortable.


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15 Feb 2013, 11:58 pm

I stay for coffee hour and talk with people after church once a week. I see my friends at their house maybe twice a month. Go out to eat not alone/with my family maybe every few months. Go to parties like never. I ice skate every weekday, which can mean like 3-4 other people, or like 30 other people, or sometimes even 100 others. I bring friends with me ice skating maybe 2-3x a year. I go to the gym to lift weights 4 days or so a week, by myself, friends a few times a year. Have some acquaintances I talk to at the gym and rink, but not friends enough I talk to them outside of there.

What do you think is applicable answer to the poll question?



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16 Feb 2013, 12:04 am

Not never, but it might as well be.



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16 Feb 2013, 12:13 am

As I get older my condition gets more difficult to deal with. Years ago I would go out roughly a few times a week with friends. These days, I only make quick runs to the store for groceries; Doctor appointments and if I am feeling bold I might go to the gym.



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16 Feb 2013, 12:26 am

I used to go for drinks or an occasional small party with friends or coworkers every week or two, when they asked. Various changes occurred, and now I go out for errands and such, but rarely go out socially... and if I do, it's with family. Maybe that'll change when my life is more stable again.



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16 Feb 2013, 12:39 am

About my only social life is to go eat with my oldest brother and his wife on Sunday. But that doesn't count for the way the question is asked.



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16 Feb 2013, 12:40 am

I find it necessary to be socially available to my friends (unsurprisingly they're most ASD) in order to maintain a social identity. We tend to go into our personal soliloquies and appreciate each other for what we are. After enough "influence" we explore neighborhoods that require some retrospective upon themselves.
We call it artistic vandalism and adventure (trouble) seeking.
Without that I would just read and read and read and...
Family gatherings, professional performances and my hobbies requiring social participation (judo, dancing, singing and theater) don't count in this regard.
I like to dance (been a performer/martial arts type most of my life when it comes to self expression using all of my body movements, excepting the bowel and other physiological ones) in order to manipulate people into thinking about the details that make that damned larger picture (I don't hate people per say, just their monotonous perception of what's right and wrong).
I enjoy that feeling when people just give me space on the dance floor, so that I can express my stimming in a creative way.
This happens a few times a year and that's all I need.
Otherwise socializing is a moot activity for myself, though sometimes I wish I wasn't so damned "stubborn" about not caring about some ladies' attentions (carnal pleasures when experienced with a woman I really enjoy being with help me deal with that lonesome existence I deal with most of the time, as rarely as it happens. No sex for the previous 5 years is my count so far).
I'm just glad I had the chance to develop a sensitivity for beauty, which helped me appreciate life and people for what they are and not for what I want them to be.