Please say some comforting words to me

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I haven't been feeling good about myself lately. I have been doing some bad, stupid and irritating things that I can't tell you about. Things that I have been upsetting my mom with. Will you please say some comforting, kind words to make me happy?

Life sucks, then you die.

That's about all I've got.

Congratulations: the fact that you have been doing "bad, stupid, and irritating things" indicates that you are likely a human being! The fact that you are both aware of and remorseful for such indicates that you are a perceptive and caring human being. Your mother, being a human being herself, will come to forgive you for your human behaviour, as you are at least a human with the decency to strive for good.

*virtual hug, if that would so please you*

Life is what we make of it; it is a bit suckish and a bit awesome, but it is all we have to work with in the time being...
...and I believe in your ability to do great things with this life.

Your mother would probably like to hear you say, "I'm sorry." And, "I won't ever do that again."

You are a considerate and caring person. When you feel like you've done the wrong thing, you want to fix it.

I'm sorry. I've been there. It's tough when people don't understand you, right?

You'll worry a lot less about what other people think of you when you realise how infrequently they do...

It's typical for children to do things that are labeled as "bad" or "irritating". That's how we learn to navigate within social groups. If you are a teen then you are transitioning from social groups of a few other children to larger social groups in order to exist in the adult world, where you will have to socialize with all of the people at college, work, the grocery store, the bank and everywhere else that adults need to show responsibility and etiquette in order to function. I've learned to mimic behaviors that I don't even understand, but it works. Then I go home and absorb myself in music whenever possible. Your behaviors are just ways of trying to set your own boundaries, as opposed to those that a parent has set, so that you can function in the adult world without your parent. It's important to do this. Explain that to your mother and invite her opinion on the matter. Let her know what scares you about interacting with so many people on such a large scale and what you don't understand about the world of adult responsibilities. You may not even know what scares you or what you don't understand yet, but conversations like this with your mom will surely tease it out of you over time. Don't be in a hurry to find your likes and dislikes. Enjoy the experimentation but do it with an air of caution and analyze the risks before you leap. Rebel intelligently and, yes, apologize when you do something that had unintended consequences; otherwise you'll fail to learn from your mistakes and fail to gain the respect that you deserve.

GinnyPenny ?

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It's a bit hard to say anything really meaningful when I don't know anything about you or what you did, or what your Mum is like. Nonetheless, I am sorry you felt so desolate that you needed to reach out in this manner.

The others are right. Life is difficult, we all screw up, and then have to suffer through it. At least you know what you did. Some don't even realize their errors. To get over it, you need to make amends with your Mum. If I was she, I would be more than happy to sort it out and put it behind us.

If you are feeling too overwhelmed and confused about your situation, then you could try to emotionally distance yourself from it, to get some perspective. Try to see yourself from someone else's point of view. This can really help you to sort out what is and isn't important, and to make things that seem bad look not so bad.

One thing which helps me sometimes seems silly, but you could try it if you don't know what else to do. I go outside, lie down on my tank (or the ground, depending on your surroundings) and I look at the trees. I imagine they are looking at me, quietly, non judgementally, and just watching the turmoil in my head. This kind of makes me see how the world goes on and functions regardless of what is happening in my head. It makes my problems seem smaller, and sometimes it quietens the noise in my head. Sometimes a plan of action materializes in my head, once the turmoil settles down.

It also helps to define the real problems (mistakes) in as few words as possible, without leaving out any important details. Seeing them 'naked' like that can help to identify a useful, relevant solution.

Best wishes.

You are special, just like everyone else in this world... go smell some flowers, watch some birds going about their business.
Smile at your self in the mirror and give yourself a high five or a hug.. you are unique, there's is only one of you so try and enjoy your time here !
Cup of coffee and a toasted bagel works for me too

Stu

Finish every day and be done with it.
You have done what you could.
Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in;
forget them as soon as you can.
Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense.
This day is all that is good and fair.
It is too dear, with it's hopes and invitations,
to waste a moment on the yesterdays.


Ralph Waldo Emmerson

Everything will be okay.

I can understand. I'm 28 years old so also a grown woman and I live at home with my mom and I've done/I do bad, annoying things to her having to do with imposing my routines on her and being loud to cover up her noise when it annoys me. Very childish, indeed, and unfair to mom. I feel really guilty and horrible when I do these things so I can imagine how you feel. You're not alone and (depending on what you did but most probably) you're not an evil person for annoying your mom. Virtual hug.

Hello Ginnypenny, you're beautiful